[growing_up]

Hi,

I met this guy recently at a party through a mutual friend. We talked for maybe an hour at the party, then afterwards we started talking on chat most nights for long periods (more than a few hours). A few days later, he invited me to his party. Does he like me? Sometimes I think, of course, but then I think maybe he's just a friendly guy who wants to hang out/is like this with everyone? He hasn't really dropped me any hints, or asked for my number. Helpp. Thanks a lot!

[redhed35]

Can I ask what age you are,and what kind of party it is?

[growing_up]

I'm a teenager, and the party is just a chilled, house party with friends (maybe 40 people?)

[redhed35]

I was just reading over some of your other threads,your say your kind of quite,if some of your other friends are going too,go and see if he takes the time to talk to you,you can enjoy the party with your friends,you can get to know him and see what kind of a guy he is.

If he is talking to you and taking time to ask you to a party,he likes you,maybe he is just looking for friendship,nothing wrong with being friends with a nice guy.

Don't let yourself get carried away,don't dwell on it,let a friendship develop,if it turns out you don't like him its easier to walk away.

To sum up,take your time to make up your mind and see if YOU really like HIM.

[growing_up]

OK thanks a lot that really put things in perspective. I know some people going so I will just go with the flow... if he is interested will he talk to me? Or should I talk to him?

[rosebud135]

Ask him for his number. Ask to chill with him alone. Like a movie or something.
If you want him to like you. You have to chase him. He may like you but then again you never know. Especially if he hasn't given any hints.

[redhed35]

I don't think you have to chase him at all!

In fact,I have found that guys like to do the chasing.

He already likes to talk to you,go with the flow as you said,enjoy the night,without expectation...

People who look like there comfortable with there surroundings and look like there enjoying themselves are attractive,others want to speak to them.

Don't come on all needy and desperate,you don't have to chase a guy to get him to like you,he will or he won't.

Saying yes to the party will let him know you like him too,then the ball is in his court.

[growing_up]

OK thank you both. Yea, I don't want to appear to desperate, but at the same time want to let him know I am interested (which I think I have done already). Ill just see how it goes :)

[jaime90]

You could always ask him if he's interested, or ask him on a date yourself, so that he knows that you're interested.

[I wish]

I would also say, go with the flow. Even though there's 40 people at the party, he still made the effort to invite you, but it doesn't mean he's attracted. Seeing him at the party will definitely give you a better idea on how interested he really is.

The reason he probably didn't get your number is because you already have IM together anyway, so he can contact you from there.

[Jake2008]

Getting to know someone by 'chatting' online, is quite different, and a different impression, than seeing them and talking to them, in person.

Seeing him socially, while in the company of a lot of people will give you an idea what he is really like, and both of you an opportunity to see if there is a spark there.

Don't be fooled by words on a computer screen; it is easy to read things wrong when you don't have any other clues to read him by.

The person you think you know, may be entirely different in person. Just take your time, don't 'read' too much into thinking you know him well.

[talaniman]

Enjoy your party, and don't worry about him. This is a good time to observe and not get carried away by a lot of feelings. Just go with the flow and have a great time, and see what happens.