[maroman]

Me and my girlfriend just broke up about 3days ago. She's 18 I'm 20. She's pregnant... Now, I would like some input on the following situation because I don't know what I'm doing or why I'm doing it.

Recently (pre-pregnancy), I started to lose a lot of feeling, not for my girlfriend but just in general. For instance, not much matters anymore and I really don't care about many things. My girlfriend and I constantly fight and I'm constantly treating her in ways I would NEVER do and not even second guessing it. Now the reason I told her why I wanted a break was so that we could work on ourselves before the baby gets here and hopefully have things patched up by then. We could get jobs (yes I'm unemployed and she has a PT baby-sitting job), save money, do what we want and have time for ourselves because we live together and are constantly in each others faces. Needless to say that's not the entire reason... deep inside I'm scared to death, of the baby, of the commitment, and of the responsibility. I want to be alone for now and not worry about it all. I want to get out and get with other girls and experience the single life even if only for a couple weeks. I know that sounds selfish and very irresponsible but its what I want. I was previously in a relationship with a girl for 3years and when we broke up I was in need of comfort and started dating again. Me and her have been dating for 9 months now and when I said I love you the first time I meant it. All my feelings for her were legit and I knew I loved her. Sure we made plans and talked about kids or w/e but never thought it would happen. We had a pregnancy scare a while back before she went on her birth control and she ended up miscarrying. I was devastated, honestly. And that's what I don't understand. I cared so much before and now that its happened again and is just as serious I want nothing to do with it... so, I ended it. I feel horrible and disgusted with myself sometimes, especially when she's over(she moved out since) and I see her start to cry and ask why we're not together. But the other part of me says not to, and to stick with the plan because I seriously want things to work out with us and to have things squared away for the baby. And I also want to be single... its like my mind keeps jumping from wanting to get back with her and not. It sounds pathetic and I know I'm wrong in someway but I just can't take the plunge or something... I need some input I guess...

p.s. I just had a major #$^%storm hit me last night and today as well. There's a girl that my best-friend is going after who tried asking me if I cheat on my girlfriend (this was at a party where technically we were still together), I said no. I don't cheat. But don't get me wrong she is very attractive and I did think about her. Anyway, she keeps hinting at me and flirting a lot. I finally confront her about it and she freaks out and tells my "girlfriend" and best-friend, so now I'm waiting for her to get here so I an try and explain that.

I know I left stuff out and honestly can't remember a lot. Personally I think it's a LOT of bad timing, for instance, I realized I don't want a relationship AFTER she's pregnant and moved in and I confronted that one girl while I was single so it looks like I wanted to @#$@ her (honestly I did... but I honestly don't think I would have, I just wanted to know so I could tell my friend he was getting played. She got to them first... ). I don't know, be blunt. Thanks...

[redhed35]

You had sex,you made a baby twice! And now you want out.

Getting out of the relationship is easy,however you won't get out of your responsibility towards your child.

Your not nearly mature enough to handle a serious relationship let alone a baby,but the deed is done.

Get a job start saving,babies cost money,do the mother of your baby a favour and let her go,stop messing her around,keep your penis in your pants and grow up.

As for the girl who is chasing you now,it does not say much for her if she sees how you treated your ex.

For a 20 year old guy your behaving like a 15 year old,man up to your responsibilities.

[Romefalls19]

Not only are you selfish, you're an immature arsehole! You were "man" enough to make a baby, twice, you can be a man and step up to the plate. Baby or no baby, your ex deserves a lot better than some boy like you. You don't cheat, but you will abandon your PREGNANT girlfriend and let her go through the toughest part of pregnancy alone? Oh yea, you're a man. You made your bed, now lay in it.

I hope she takes you to court and rakes in the C.S and sees how much of a low life you are

[Devorameira]

Any guy who gets a girl pregnant and dumps her is a pure loser ... especially a fellow like you who obviously doesn't care about anyone except yourself! Be a man and accept your responsibility. If you were a big enough man to get her pregnant, be man enough to support her and be good to her. She doesn't deserve this!

Congratulations on the 18 years of upcoming child support payments. I hope you sleep well knowing that an innocent baby will suffer because you were too stupid to use a condom.

A childs life not a game !!!! :mad: