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LittleAsh · Jan 22, 2010, 05:53 PM

I was wondering why its taking me so long to get pregnant. I am 17 years old, me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and have never used condoms. I'm just so stressed I feel like there's no hope for me. Ive done everything I can but nothing still hasn't happened yet. I dotn know what to do anymore I just need advice!x is anyone in the same boat as me? :(

justcurious55 · Jan 22, 2010, 06:06 PM

I'm not about to give a minor advice on how to get pregnant. And I'll be shocked if anyone else here will.

Have you finished high school yet? Has your boyfriend? Do you both have jobs? Do either of you intend to go to college? Can you afford a house? A car? Crib? Diapers? Baby clothes? A carseat? Health insurance? Car insurance? If you can afford all of that, please, tell me your secret. I'm a couple years older than you, work, go to school, and make just enough for my rent, car payment, insurance, and groceries. There is no way that I could afford to add a baby to my budget.

LittleAsh · Jan 22, 2010, 06:12 PM

Me and my boyfriend are both 18 this year. Im going to college to do Childcare next month and my boyfriend has a full time job. We have spoke about if for years now, and we have been saving up our money for when we do have a kid so yeah we are well prepared.

Wondergirl · Jan 22, 2010, 06:20 PM

Originally Posted by LittleAsh

Me and my boyfriend are both 18 this year. Im going to college to do Childcare next month and my boyfriend has a full time job. We have spoke about if for years now, and we have been saving up our money for when we do have a kid so yeah we are well prepared.

Hopefully, the two of you are, right now, making about $40,000 a year before taxes. The average annual cost of a child is around $10,000+ (figuring he isn't sick a lot or needs special care). Until he is 18, you will spend a total of about $200,000 on him.

justcurious55 · Jan 22, 2010, 06:22 PM

Is he going to college? Will you be working once the baby comes? Does he make enough to provide for himself, you, and the baby? Where will you guys live? Two 18 years with a baby on the way aren't typically dream tenants. And what's your credit like? Many places will do a credit check before renting to you. Do you both have cars?

And what does going to college to do childcare even mean? Are you going to college to major in child development? Does the college have a childcare center you'll be using? Will you be working in the childcare center? I know there's not a degree called childcare...

LittleAsh · Jan 22, 2010, 06:32 PM

Originally Posted by justcurious55

is he going to college? will you be working once the baby comes? does he make enough to provide for himself, you, and the baby? where will you guys live? two 18 years with a baby on the way aren't typically dream tenants. and what's your credit like? many places will do a credit check before renting to you. do you both have cars?

and what does going to college to do childcare even mean? are you going to college to major in child development? does the college have a childcare center you'll be using? will you be working in the childcare center? i know there's not a degree called childcare...

No he isn't going to college, he has a full time job. Yes I will be working part-time if I had a baby. Me the baby and my boyfriend will all live together in our own house. Yes he makes enough to provide for 3 of us. No we don't have cars but that's not a major thing. Im going to be doing Education and Care Studies at the college.

Wondergirl · Jan 22, 2010, 06:53 PM

Originally Posted by LittleAsh

No he isn't going to college, he has a full time job.

$40,000+ a year?

Yes I will be working part-time if I had a baby.

Daycare? (The money you earn will be slightly more than the daycare costs.)

Me the baby and my boyfriend will all live together in our own house.

A house that the two of you own?

No we don't have cars but that's not a major thing.

Why not?

Im going to be doing Education and Care Studies at the college.

A certificate program, A.A. B.A.

J_9 · Jan 23, 2010, 04:42 AM

Sorry, LittleAsh, but we are not going to help a girl as young as yourself try to get pregnant.

It is obvious by your posts that you haven't a clue what having a child is all about.

Having a car isn't a major thing? How are you going to get to the weekly and monthly doctor's appointments? How will you get to the hospital when you go into labor or if the baby has to go to the emergency room in the middle of the night?

Let me guess, you will have all the answers to all of the questions above, AND you are mature for your age.

Well, guess what, you may be mature, but your body is still not mature and is not ready to carry a baby. There are some very serious risks involved with getting pregnant at your age.

artlady · Jan 23, 2010, 04:56 AM

The reason you are not getting pregnant may be because you started having sex at such a young age and you may have compromised your reproductive health.

Young people who have multiple sex partners,remember this,who ever the person you are with you are essentially having sex with all of the people they had sex with and all the people that that person had sex with.So,, you are with one guy.. unprotected and you are screwing maybe 50 people!

Do you get it?

There is real sex education out there right?

It can make you unable to ever have children! Do your homework and know that any std will make you infertile.You can have an std without symptoms!

LittleAsh · Jan 23, 2010, 12:34 PM

Awrite well thanks anyway.

Wondergirl · Jan 23, 2010, 01:56 PM

Originally Posted by LittleAsh

Awrite well thanks anyway.

"Awrite"? What the heck does that mean?

LittleAsh · Jan 23, 2010, 01:58 PM

Its just like another word for OK lol thanks anyway.

Wondergirl · Jan 23, 2010, 02:34 PM

Originally Posted by LittleAsh

Its just like another word for ok lol thanks anyway.

You mean, "All right"?

Lonely_19 · Jan 24, 2010, 08:07 AM

I'm sorry hun, but you really don't know what you're getting yourself into.

My fiancé is 24 years old, drives, has a car of his own (that is all paid off), works a full time job at $18 an hour (well above average for someone of his age, and experience, etc.)
And has been on his own since he was 17 years old.

I am 20 years old, have been working since I was 15 years old, and have a successful career as a behavioural therapist...

And am pregnant.

My fiancé and I were pretty well off, and still have quite stable lives, living arrangements, jobs, etc... and yet we are struggling drastically in the financial area... not to mention the strain it has put on us emotionally.

We had steady incomes, safe homes, and cars of our own and things are still EXTREMELY challenging with a baby on the way.. planned or not.
Married couples in their 30's still stuggle when a new baby is on the way... even when they've got everything all planned out beautifully!

Truth is, you can never be 100% prepared for a child, but it is especially difficult at your age, and with your naivety and inexperience it will only be more challenging.
No one is blaming you for your naivety.. you're young, and as a result you're inexperienced, etc.
As mature as you may be for your age, that has little to no effect on the matter.

Fact is, enjoy your life, experience things while you're still young.. it sounds like you have some good goals so focus on them... go to college, get your degree... settle yourself down in a nice home, get a car, build up some financial security, and when that's all done in a few years time... well then maybe re-examine your ideas of being a mother.
If you decide to try again at that time, build a solid, FOOL-PROOF plan, have plan A and a plan B, have back up plans for EVERYTHING, you have no idea the surprises that arise! Especially when a baby is in the picture.

Best of luck.