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BlackVY · Oct 8, 2009, 04:23 PM

I know there is life after an ex...

No matter what any guy thinks, not just you in your situation, there is always life outside an ex...

The world doesn't stop because you broke up. It keeps going and there is a lot happening everywhere. You just have to open your eyes and see it...

friend4u178 · Oct 8, 2009, 04:28 PM

LOL... nothing wrong with cherishing the good times noney , just don't dwell on them , but remember the bad times as well , they were there and you just have to remember the lesson you learnt from those for your next relationship.

And "Is there life after her" Of course there is , so look forward to when that arrives and think of the great times ahead , it'll happen when you least expect it buddy ;)

Survivor07 · Oct 8, 2009, 04:31 PM

Hey Noney, why so down? Something else going on?

What I think is that, yes, life does go on and you know that.
I also think that after a long time has passed that our minds only let us remember the good times, which makes us want that back. We miss it. It's normal.

You've given a lot of good advice on here, so I know you know that life does go on. You've loved and learned. You have an experience. You'll have more. Good and bad.

The one thing about life that will never change is that it never stays the same.

Hang in there, Noney.

none12345 · Oct 8, 2009, 04:40 PM

Originally Posted by friend4u178

LOL............nothing wrong with cherishing the good times noney , just don't dwell on them , but remember the bad times as well , they were there and you just have to remember the lesson you learnt from those for your next relationship.

And "Is there life after her" Of course there is , so look forward to when that arrives and think of the great times ahead , it'll happen when you least expect it buddy ;)

Lol OK M! you would think that I'd learned my lesson by now and the cost of love, I paid that price long enough but somehow I still I drive myself right through the pain. I don't know why XD

none12345 · Oct 8, 2009, 04:45 PM

Originally Posted by Survivor07

Hey Noney, why so down? Something else going on?

Nope nothing else is going on I guess life just isn't going the way I expected with my career, relationships and social life but I'm trying to make that happen.

friend4u178 · Oct 8, 2009, 04:51 PM

That's life noney and everything happens for a reason. As the old saying goes , "when one door closes another one opens" But you have to let the first door close first ;)

Survivor07 · Oct 8, 2009, 06:35 PM

Patience, patience.

Think of life like an amusement park, so much to see and do. So exciting. Some rides are our favorite and we want to go on them over and over. Then the ride is shut down, removed or we're just sick of it and we have to move on to something else. Some rides make us sick and we know to stay away from them.

Right now I guess you could say you're standing in line for a ride you've never gone on yet, so you don't know what to expect, you're anxious and bored and missing your favorite ride. (No pun intended with "ride". Also, I'm tired and this may be my lamest metaphor ever; sorry.) Good night, Noney.

jmw0713 · Oct 12, 2009, 01:39 PM

Everyone has ups and downs. I feel them everyday. It a normal part of life. We remember things that were good and want them back, but like everyone else said, more of these times will happen. When they do, be sure you realize they are!

none12345 · Jan 22, 2010, 02:20 PM

Wow... Today I was boredz so I decided to read my whole thread and realized how far I have come. Its been well over a year since the break up.

I don't think of my ex anymore and if I do I just stop and think and just go on with my life as if nothing happened. It doesn't hurt anymore and I'm too busy with other stuff going on with my life.

Unfortunately, nothing is going on with my "love life" which is quite upsetting at times but there are so many other things that I would rather have right now. I guess being single is convenient for me right now but I wouldn't mind if I found somebody right now.

The other day, I was out with a friend for lunch and we talked about my past relationship and he just mentioned to me that a good ending makes a good beginning. It got me thinking that me and my ex never had a good ending and perhaps its time to fix that. Unfortunately, contacting her would be the last thing I would want to do ever. What do you guys think?

amicon · Jan 22, 2010, 02:27 PM

I think you made your own good ending by getting through and past your breakup.

It's good to know that you're feeling fine.

As for being single, I'm sure you'll meet someone new-maybe when you least expect it?

jmw0713 · Jan 22, 2010, 03:17 PM

This is a good ending. It is a good ending because you are now getting on with your life, like you should be.

You are walking off into the sunset on to your next adventure. I couldn't write a better ending myself.

friend4u178 · Jan 22, 2010, 03:51 PM

Good for you Noney , I love happy endings :)

From memory I think we all predicted you'd be fine ;)

emopunk7 · Jan 22, 2010, 03:52 PM

Yeah, keep moving forward. Why would you even want to break no contact? Seems strange. It's over. Keep moving forward! You are still going. Look at all the positives and stay focused!

none12345 · Jan 22, 2010, 04:26 PM

Originally Posted by friend4u178

Good for you Noney , I love happy endings :)

From memory I think we all predicted you'd be fine ;)

Lol M, sometimes happy endings are sad. I think this might be one of those. You guys did predict I was going to be fine, at first I didn't believe but now I am a believer! Lol.

Unfortunately I think this book does end here, now my life is just another pointless chapter that does not deserve to be written. :(

friend4u178 · Jan 22, 2010, 04:28 PM

No buddy
You just ended a chapter not the entire book , the next chapter will be better as long as you learnt from the last one ;)

none12345 · Jan 22, 2010, 04:48 PM

Okay man! But I am confused as to where to go from here, everyday just seems like routine and there is nothing that makes me want to get up from bed in the morning. Lol

It also gets pretty lonely since I don't have much friends to keep me company. So yah I'm not sure what to do...

amicon · Jan 22, 2010, 10:17 PM

Try to make more friends-there must be people you out there that you like and who like you.
How is school going?

vanheart · Jan 23, 2010, 09:50 PM

Yes, change what you know. Your bad habits.

You're right, you're routine that isn't working, and didn't.

Meet people, all people. Not just girls. Cool people.

Loneliness is all in your head.

And yeah, don't look at this as pointless.

Look at it as learning and growing. As we all do.

Focus on what's making you happy, get rid of the rest.

Survivor07 · Feb 7, 2010, 08:55 PM

Wow, I've been away and have to catch up. Sorry you're feeling like the book has been written, read and stuck on a shelf. Hope you're feeling better.

Listen, I could tell you what you already know from the previous threads, even ones where you've given great advice, but I don't have to.

I know it hurts sometimes. I'm alone again, too. Seems he wasn't who I thought he was, or who I wanted him to be, etc. etc. But, life goes on.

So, alone again am I. But you know what? I'm probably twice your age and there's no way my book is finished. No way at all. I may be "alone" for the next six months or the next six years, but there's a lot more to put in my book no matter what. It's called hope, Noney. I know you have it.

I also know how it feels to want to share your life with someone else, someone to enhance what you've already got, so I do feel your pain. BUT don't you dare get all down in the dumps and having pity parties. That's no fun. Hope all's well. Good night