[ColdKiller23]

So my ex-girlfriend wanted to just be friends, same old story. At first I was willing to cope, I had the feeling of freedom, and the hurt sunk in a few days later. I went off on her, saying she moved on as almost if nothing had happened, and then I eventually said sorry and we were talking again. Well I eventually had it when she was going out with a new guy, then talking to her ex. Obviously she wasn't over him. So I started NC and a few days later she texts me asking how I am, I play it off as I'm fine which I was. Don't think too much of it, so a few more days later she texts me saying sorry, and I'm like it happens blah blah blah. I eventually accept her apology, because she actually cared enough to apologize. So I started talking to another girl, but never really got over my ex. I told her that I was hanging out with the new girl, and I was talking to her about the new girl. She said she would be there if I need her. Then today she asked if I think her having a certain hair color would look good on her. Is she trying to be friends or win me back?

[neverme]

Well you mention NC but you never actually had no contact with this girl for more than a few days, so your emotions are still tied up with her and I think it is unwise to be starting a new relationship.

Now is she still interested?

I don't know. Could be a simple question, it would not be out of the ordinary for any of my friends male or female to ask my opinion on their appearance.

But why do you care?

Either you want to get over her and move on or you see something worth hanging onto in the relationship.

If it is the latter, stop playing games, tell her how you feel and see where you go from there.

If it is the former, forget whether she wants whatever she wants and move on! If you don't want to cut ties with her completely just tell her you need some space for a while but honestly you need to do for you now... not her.

Best of Luck.

[ColdKiller23]

I really like that answer and thank you for it. Basically as much as it kills me to say it I would take her back, but I don't want to tell her how I feel without it making it look like I'm the weak one. I want to show her that I won't just come crawling back, if she doesn't say anything about getting back I guess it wouldn't bother me, but I don't like how she is playing games... Basically how can I tell her how I feel?

[neverme]

You don't know that she is playing games, she may just be asking a question.

I would back off if I were you you. The emotions are too fresh right now and you are suspecting every move she makes, which may or may not be reasonable.

Basically, your emotions regarding this girl are too confused at the moment to get back involved with her. If it's supposed ot be it will be, rushing it will only ruin it.

But, normally once the dust (and emotions) settle, we see that there was a reason for the break up and it still stands.

[amicon]

Back off,go NC and let her ask somebody else about her haircolour problems.

[Romefalls19]

This is why we preach NC, it saves the mind all the confusion about what she could mean. To be honest, it could mean nothing or it could mean everything but I'd rather live my life controlling the things I can, not trying to understand the workings of the female mind, which have been deemed harder to understand than Chinese Arithmetic