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DecayingLove012 · Jan 10, 2010, 09:03 AM

7 months ago I was looking forward to school with my boyfriend tye, who lives 4 states away from me. He is vary sweet to me and not like a lot of the guys by me. When school started some guys started to say they really like me and one of them said he loved me. I did not believe that that one loved me because he hadn't known me that long anyway. So then christmas break comes up and I meet a guy (guy 1) that's really sweet and caring. We met while doing community service. I was with some friends doing it for fun(making boxes for people who wouldn't have much for christmas). He was there because he has one year probation for driving 60 in a 35 zone. We don't see each other often but we see each other more than tye and me. And then there is a different guy(guy 2) at my school. He knows how to stand up for me.. when guys are being pervs. And I seem to really like him but not as much as guy 1 and tye.. can someone please help me?:confused:

jaime90 · Jan 10, 2010, 12:39 PM

Sit down, clear your head, and think with your brain- not with your feelings. Find out what YOU want out of a relationship. What qualities do you want in a future spouse? (of course I'm assuming that you are in the market for spouse material, and are not looking for a guy to mess around with.) Of course, everyone figures that knowing what you want will solve any problems, but it won't. After you know what you want, get to know the guys better. Get to know all of them as friends, and show a little patience. In the early stages of a relationship/friendship, a lot of guys hide their negatvie qualities. If you wait, their true colors will come through. (also, I would avoid the guy who told you he loved you- he clearly does not know what true love is, and there's a good chance he was trying to manipulate you by charming you and enchanting you in order to get you to like him. Unfortunately, this is really typical.)

I wish · Jan 11, 2010, 08:21 AM

Why not be single until you figure out who you like the most?

Tying your boyfriend down when you're not fully committed to him is selfish of you and unfair to him.

HistorianChick · Jan 11, 2010, 08:24 AM

You have a boyfriend. You shouldn't be looking for fun with other guys. If you want to look for guy 1, 2, or 10, break up with your boyfriend.

Tye doesn't deserve to be treated like this. He deserves a girlfriend who is interested in only him.

Sounds like you need to stop looking at the buffet and get a table for one. Work on what makes YOU happy; don't try and find it in guy 3.

DecayingLove012 · Jan 12, 2010, 10:54 AM

Okay to every one who keeps saying tye don't deserve this just letting you know we broke up 4 weeks ago and I still like him that's why I am even asking what I should do..

jaime90 · Jan 12, 2010, 05:59 PM

Be friends with them and learn about them that way. The best way to learn about anyone before a relationship, is to be friends with them. Why is there such a rush for you to date one of them? (and I would get the guy who says he loves you out of the way. When a guy tells you he 'loves you' without even knowing you, he is clearly lying, or ignorant: not boyfriend material.)