[nirvanafannz]

So I met my current girlfriend 3 years ago in a chatroom. She's american and I'm a new zealander. January last year she came over to stay. Of course this was after long and careful consideration. We'd decided to try it for 3 months, then 6 months, then 9 - depending on how we worked together and everything before making it a sure thing. Well it was going okay, now I just find myself not interested anymore. I've spoken to her about this because it wouldn't be fair if I didn't. I'm not into her personality anymore - she just doesn't make me happy. We argue almost daily and most of the time I zone out and just go into my own space. I can't handle her, she's quite immature and, honestly, can be quite pathetic. I've spoken to her about this also and that we aren't working and she needs to find another place to stay or go home. She refuses to go though she has the resources to. I've asked her maybe friendship, if she would want that but she says no, she wants me as a boyfriend nothing less. I pay for everything which doesn't bother me as much but she refuses to leave. I don't want to be with this girl anymore what should I do?

[450donn]

Are you renting or an owner. If renting, end the lease and move out. If you are an owner, you might have to look into legal action to get her out. Sounds like you bought yourself a real mess.

[Fr_Chuck]

Let me see you are just not "into her" you don't thing of counseling first to work things out.

I would say a lady who gives up everything, moves to a new nation needs to be given every chance

[nirvanafannz]

I am renting, I have investigated new places to leave but there are none in my price range at the moment. We have tried counselling to no avail. I understand your point, hence why she's still here a year later. She is very immature, she has never communicated much. I had to call and book and interview for a job because she didn't want to do it, thought she was saying how much she wished she could help with costs. She has asked a lot of me and does not put anything into the relationship. It is very frustrating because I do in fact feel sorry for her but I can't keep trying to force something that's not there anymore.

[jaime90]

This girl apparently isn't taken you as seriously as she should. You need to get your point across- even if that means going to drastic measures. Tell her that you don't want to see her anymore. If she has somewhere else to go- a friend or family member, tell her she needs to leave. If she has nowhere to go, maybe you could stay at a friend or family member's house. Don't answer her phone calls. If she comes to the door and knocks, tell her from behind a closed door that you don't want to talk. If she comes back, or doesn't leave, call the cops. It's sad, but sometimes necessary.