[jordanian11]

Today I have lost my strength in my life

I had had many of this accidents.. such as people not respecting me.. telling me you will never be any thing one day...

Every one around me want to me be belonging to the culture.. u know.. respest the brother.. know how to talk to the brothers wife.. or the father.. or what ever.. respect and respect

What if I don't care

Because I don't

I never do care.. to me I don't see myself in the far or near future caring!

I am a respectful person all I do is good.. if any one want to be in my life.. they should know that.. not I have to respect them.. know what to say to them or in front of them

Will you know what

I don't want to!!

Another thing

I am having the worst day today

My boyfriend and I r having a messed up relation this day.. I donno why

But he is not into me anymore.. sexually he is of course.. but he don't tell me I am beautiful.. even if I say in front of him I am! And I know I don't need him to tell me that.. I should believe it myself... but I am taking this POSITIVE THINKING step by step.. because I used to be a mess.. but now I do want to change.. I do want to make a difference in my life.. I do want to feel like I deserve to be good.. just not quit sure how to do that but I am working on it.. so if yes I want to be beautiful in my eyes and a little help from him (since he had been with me for the last 4 years) won't hurt..

Anyway!

I am a negative person today

Does any one know how can I change that?

And I mean deep down.. not by listening to music or dancing or...

Has any one been in my situation?

I want to love myself.. but I keep feeling like I am not worthy any more! How do I turn this around and feel better again? Love who I am.. because I know I am a wow person (ofcourse we all feel this way) but right now I don't even feel worthy!

Thanks

[jaime90]

I know how you feel. As a human being, you deserve respect, and you deserve to be treated well. Also, you should respect others, because they too, are human beings. It sounds like you believe your life is hopeless.
It isn't! It is a very admirable thing for you to want to change your negative thinking.

Changing the way you think is a matter of disciplining your mind, recognizing the distortion in your thoughts and combating the lies with truth.

When you think negative thoughts about yourself, tell yourself out loud what the truth is. (ie. Instead of thinking that your future is hopeless, tell yourself, outloud, "My future is not hopeless, I have a future like everyone else, and there are so many options for me.") It may be awkward at first, but after some time, it should help you realize what is true. All too often our feelings dictate who we think we are, and our emotions get wrapped up in how we view ourselves. When you think with your head, and think realistically about yourself, it is difficult for your thoughts to revolve around your feelings, which are often deceptive.
Best of luck and every happieness to you! If you need any more help, let me know.

[I wish]

Do what makes you happy. Don't let anyone else control your life. Don't let anyone tell you what to do. Take control of your own life.

You can't expect to change yourself from a negative person to a positive person in 1 night. It's a process with many steps. You've taken the first step by wanting to change yourself. Take it step-by-step, day-by-day.

Here's a suggestion:

Week 1: Every day, you should think of at least 1 positive thought

Week 2: Every day, you should think of at least 2 positive thoughts

Week 3: Every day, you should think of at least 3 positive thoughts,

etc.

Eventually, positive thoughts might become a habit for you.

[Gemini54]

The real answer lies not in 'loving' yourself, but in accepting yourself. You are what you are, which is perfect. If you accept yourself and your imperfections you can say that you're perfectly imperfect.

The reason that telling yourself that you're beautiful and that you must love yourself doesn't work, is because deep down you don't believe it. However, if you accept yourself as you are without making judgments about how beautiful your are or should be your mind will be more at peace.

Of course we all have times when we feel moody or depressed or negative, but if you are aware of your feelings, and accept them rather than trying to reject them, then you will feel far more stable.

The first step in becoming more positive is to stop making judgments about whether something is positive or negative. It just is.

[SelfImprovement]

Since you actually want to see a change in yourself, I think that is the first step.

Next thing to remember is - don't criticize yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. Watch yourself talk, and the moment you recognize negative words or phrases creeping in, pull yourself up short and just stop it.

Additionally, practice speaking your mind, clearly and firmly. As long as you are not intentionally hurting someone, just practice speaking your mind, without really thinking what you are going to say before hand. Don't worry if you goof up, next time you'll get it right. But don't stop trying.

And if someone criticizes you? If there is truth in it, learn from it and move on. If there isn't - just say your disagreement; Either way, don't be overly sensitive about it.

Hope these tips help. More ideas to become positive in your life can be found at:
Positive Words, Positive Phrases, FIVE Positive Attitude Tips.