[InLoveWithaBoy]

Ok, my boyfriend used to be into drugs a lot. He has tried just about everything. He went to military school, a drug rehab and a life recovery program. After the life recovery program, he was clean and sober for a year and a half. About a month ago, I found him in our office passed out with a can of dust-off in his hand after a fight we had. After we talked about it and he promised to NEVER do it again, I found him last night huffing again. We had also had another fight. He is on anti-anxiety and anti-depressants. I don't know what to do to help him stop. Please Help!

[Perito]

The best way you can help him is to help yourself. Run as far and as fast from him as possible. He's not going anywhere in life. The most likely outcome is that he will fry his brain and he will end up with real problems -- unable to hold onto a family, unable to hold onto a job, etc.

An addict cannot usually be helped by people around him. Promises mean nothing to addicts. Until he helps himself, he won't overcome his addiction.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, he has to fall to rock bottom before he will want to really stop

[guineapigging]

"Run as far and as fast from him as possible. He's not going anywhere in life. The most likely outcome is that he will fry his brain and he will end up with real problems -- unable to hold onto a family, unable to hold onto a job, etc."

You should not leave him when things get tough. You should not run from him. You should watch him like he's a baby. Make sure there is no dust-off, paint, or nail polish, etc. in the house. Try to go with him wherever he goes. Talk to him everyday, about anything he wants. Tell him that you love him. Tell him to stay clean.

[InLoveWithaBoy]

Thanks everyone, we have been reading the bible everyday and trying to figure out his triggers and why he feels like he has to huff. There is no way I can leave him. I care too much about him and just want to help him overcome this addiction.

[dihydrogenoxide]

He'll only stop when he is ready to stop, when he decides that something is more important than getting high. If getting high is more important to him than you, then yes, you need to leave. If it's something he will let you help him with and he is willing to work on, then staying could be worth it. He needs to find a better way to deal with the fighting, he needs to communicate better to youhow he is feeling, rather than give up and get high. However, if he won't do these things to help himself and you, then he probs thinks the drugs are more important than you, or thinks that you'll hang around regardless of his actions.

[jewels4u39]

I wish I knew I have 19 year old son who is huffing and I am so scared because I have lost one son and now I may lose him too cause I am not sure where to get him help.