[gym176]

I fell in love with my best friend of 6 years and 1 year ago we finally admitted our love for each other. He dated another girl before me and broke up with her when he realized he loved me instead. I was dating a mutual friend of ours at the time, but broke up with him around the same time. The guy I broke up with was a nice guy before and during the time we were dating, but since I broke up with him almost a year ago he has been bitter and mean towards me. What can I do?

[SouthernBelle06]

Though it's never cool to be mean to anyone, (I recommend avoiding someone before doing so) I imagine that your ex is this way towards you simply because you hurt him. Did you and he break up for another reason or did you drop him for your current guy, which is mutual friend? You stated that this is what your current guy did with his ex... left her for you? Of course you had a right to break up, but come on... how would you feel in the same situation? It's been a year ago and may not bother you at all anymore, but the fact that he still has to see you may bring the hurt back over and over for him and therefore he is acting out towards you.

Perhaps the best thing to do is ask him what's wrong and have a talk with him and clear up any lingering bad feelings that he has. If I were him, I may not want to hang out with my ex and the person they are now dating either, especially if it was my friend. That's not always cool with some people. In fact, having been in your ex's position recently, I know I wouldn't want to hang with my ex. He in fact dumped me for another. Sorry if it's all harsh, but it may well be the case. If you can't have a civil friendship with one another, perhaps it's best if you hang out at separate places. It may be easier on everyone. I hope you all work it out some way. Good luck.

[gym176]

Thanks...
I broke up with him because there wasn't anything beyond friendship in our situation. It was bad timing, yes, but true all the same. He knew that me and our mutual friend (who I am now dating) were really close (in fact, before he asked me out the first time, he asked my friend if it was okay, even though he was dating someone else at the time). It is a complicated situation and I don't blame him for being hurt, but the attitude is what I have a problem with. I am still really close friends with his little sister and it is always akward... you know?

[Skell]

I wouldn't worry about him. He is an ex and he is jealous. Don't bother with him if he wants to act mean. That is his problem, not yours.

Just concentrate on making your current relationship work. You can't control his feeling and emotions so don't bother!