[kiwi5]

I was recently at a friends 17th birthday and people began talking about how far they had gone. As it turns out it seems I was the only one who has never been kissed, never had a boyfriend I haven't even been asked out.

I was thinking about if prehaps it was my fault, prehaps I was sending out the wrong vibe by not dressing like the girls my age or going out and drinking like they do? However I figure that I shouldn't have to act or dress a certain way just to get attention

I'm shy and I've always felt that I'm kind of more mature then my friends and so I don't have many good friends I get along with. I am actively involved at school and with sports outside of school so its not like I'm not meeting people. I have met some guys that I am attracted too however I've noticed that generally they are 3-5 years older than me so I haven't ever acted on my feelings because I assumed nothing could/would eventuated.

I'm not really sure what I should do, do I act on my feelings or do I just have to wait?

[Just Dahlia]

I wouldn't change yourself to be like others, if you did.. the person you date or kiss would not be with the real you.
Be yourself and you will eventually meet someone that is worthy of you. Don't succumb to peer pressure.:)
Focus on your studies and activities and enjoy life with out stress.
Teenage Boys are over rated anyway:rolleyes::D

[CFZD]

OP,

I just read your post guess what's the first thing came to my mind that I want to tell you? - GOOD FOR YOU!I am glad that you didn't give away your first kiss to any of the BOYZ.

Let me tell you something. I myself am 24 yr-old, I never had a boyfriend. :) Don't be disappointed that you never had a boyfriend or kissed. I clearly know my "problems", just like yours- more mature than your peers and academic/sports/career oriented. You are spending your time to develop yourself, I promise you won't regret. I am 7 years ahead of you, and the time that I can use to date boys was all used to build myself towards success! All you need to know is that, to a point maybe in your middle 20s, you can start to seek potential bfs, qualified dates... it won't be easy as you don't have as much dating experience as most of your peers. Patience is a key, and when you are 24 like me, you look back what you don't have exceeds what you've achieved than the rest of the crowd.

[jaime90]

This post is somewhat encouraging! Just think, when you get married someday, the last thing you'll want to tell your husband is that he is just one in 10 other guys that you dated, kissed, and got into bed with. For most young married couples these days, they can't say that there is anything really 'special' about their partner in the physical department- after all, they did anything and everything back in high school and college. Keep those things special for your life-long partner. I wanted to save my first kiss and first time for marriage. It didn't happen. But, I'm proud in the least, to say that I saved my first kiss for my 18th birthday, almost 2 years into my first every relationship. We're now engaged. It's very special to know that the man I'm going to marry, is my one and only. I don't have to worry about ex's, or past heartbreak. I can enjoy my relationship with my fiancé with a clean background. (I'm 19 years old)

So, good for you for being different! Of course, most people are not so lucky, which, unfortunately, is completely normal. I encourage you to get to know some guys as friends and until you know who "the one" is, keep things at friendship level.
Oh yeah, and you're only 17. Most people don't find their future spouse's until college or well after. Time is on your side!