[gregmjohn]

My wife doesn't want to have sex anymore after having a baby.WHY?:mad:

[jmjoseph]

Well, if you've gone through what she has, you wouldn't want it either. The question is, are you making a big deal out of it? If you are, you will probably be on here asking why it's been two YEARS, and not two months.

Have some compassion. She's probably got her hands full right now.

Are you one of those "me, me, me" guys?

Not trying to sound harsh, but it's been only two months dude.

[J_9]

It's only been 2 months, 8 weeks. She was told by her doctor to refrain from sex for 6 weeks after delivery. So, in actuality, it's only been 2 weeks.

She's most likely tired and overwhelmed. What do you do to help her with the baby?

[hheath541]

She's not sleeping as much as she should be. She's spending every waking moment caring for, what I assume is, her first child. She's probably also doing at least some cooking and cleaning. Her hormones are all over the place. She's probably still at least a little tender from giving birth.

She's exhausted. She's emotional. She's sore. And YOU expect her to WANT to have sex? Get over yourself, give her time to adjust, and go take care of yourself with a dirty magazine or something.

[Alty]

She's tired, she's sore, she probably still has a few pounds, if not all the pounds, of her baby weight.

After spending all day and night feeding, changing and caring for an infant, after just giving birth, the last thing a woman wants is a whiny husband begging for sex.

You have two hands, so go to town. She'll let you know when she's ready to resume sex.

[Synnen]

The other question I have is this:

Is your idea of foreplay EXACTLY the same as before the baby?

Her needs have CHANGED, and drastically.

Take the baby for a day. An ENTIRE day. Do EVERYTHING that needs to be done for the baby, along with getting food for yourself and the child, and cleaning the house. When you're done with that, run to the grocery store and pay the bills.

Please let me know if you have the energy for sex after that, because I'd like to know HOW you did it.

Seriously--give her time, first and foremost. Help with the baby, help with the house. Let her get some sleep, and let her have some time to herself to just relax and KNOW that you're going to take care of things. I'm sure she's tired, and sore, and overwhelmed and just isn't MENTALLY where she needs to be for sex.

What too many men fail to understand is that for most women, foreplay starts LONG before you touch her, and it has more to do with getting her MENTALLY in the place she needs to be for sex than with getting her PHYSICALLY there.

[J_9]

The thing we all fail to notice is that the wife is only cleared medically to have sex for the past 2 WEEKS. Not 2 months. This man expects sex 2 weeks after medical clearance!

Dang... give the woman a break. It's hard enough being a new mother, but a sex slave also?

[NeedKarma]

Are you in a lesbian relationship?
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens...lth-52080.html

[jmjoseph]

Guys, or girls, whatever the case may be, like THIS, make me look like an angel. Thank you very much for making me feel a little more sensitive to my wife's needs.

If you are a man, just using your wife's account, don't push the sex thing.

If you are a woman, next time YOU have the baby, and let's see how YOU feel about being pushed for sex.

God decided that it was best for women to carry, and birth, our children. It's a good thing, because if it were up to US, we would be extinct by now.

God bless the mothers of the world.

[Gemini54]

Um, she doesn't want to have sex because she doesn't feel like it.

She's just had a baby and the hormones take some time to come back 'on line'.

Start thinking of her needs, not yours.

Duh.

[smoothy]

Um, she doesn't want to have sex because she doesn't feel like it.

She's just had a baby and the hormones take some time to come back 'on line'.

Start thinking of her needs, not yours.

Duh.

What Gemini54 said PLUS... besides the hormone thing... are YOU getting up every couple hours to feed the little poop machine? Sorry but if I haven't had an uninterrupted nights sleep in 2 months I wouldn't be all that horny either, and I'm a guy.

[amcmurry]

My wife doesn't want to have sex anymore after having a baby.WHY?:mad:

Hey man, you are entitled to what you feel, and don't let some of these other ball-busters that post on this site try and castrate you for wanting sex from your old lady. We are men. That's what we always want, it's in our programming. But the sad truth of it all is that you are going to have to learn how to do without. And that freaky little thing you use to jump in the bed with at night just isn't in to that thing anymore, and when you feel like jumping into the sack with her when she's in bed already in bed, odds are; when you go to roll her over she'll have a baby suckleing her teet. Ahh! What a boner bender. It sounds like you are in the early stages of parenting, and this is you two's first child together. Right? So right now it's really all up to you which route you want to go. You can be a sex hound and bug the out of her until she finally gives in. Not like she doesn't resent you enough already for getting her pregnant in the first place. You still have your needs, right? Or... yes there's an option here... You can stop being selfish about, everything. Because that's all it is. You don't have a right to be mad in your situation. And if you think 8 weeks is long, time marches on my friend. So don't sweat the small stuff. And as long as you do as you are told and nothing less than what's expected of you. Like a good dog,, Maybe momma will find it in her heart to toss you a bone once in awhile. Now SIT! And learn this lesson from someone that someone's already learned the hard way... and Godbless, sincerely, I'm out... "A"

[Catsmine]

Gregmjohn, congratulations on fatherhood. It can be the most wonderful thing in the world, but like everything that's worthwhile, it's going to take work.

You need to start working now. Smoothy mentioned her having to get up every couple of hours to feed. Get a breast pump so you can give her at least some time off from the schedule. Filling the bottle can help re-establish intimacy as well.

Do you change the baby? You need to, just to stay in the same headspace as your wife.

Make the effort to be a partner and you'll find out how much closer you two can get. Forget all the B.S. about "your old lady," you're part of a family now.

[JudyKayTee]

hey man, you are entitled to what you feel, and don't let some of these other ball-busters that post on this site try and castrate you for wanting sex from your old lady. we are men. thats what we always want, it's in our programming. but the sad truth of it all is that you are going to have to learn how to do without. and that freaky little thing you use to jump in the bed with at nite just isn't in to that thing anymore, and when you feel like jumping into the sack with her when she's in bed already in bed, odds are; when you go to roll her over she'll have a baby suckleing her teet. ahh! what a boner bender. it sounds like you are in the early stages of parenting, and this is you two's first child together. Right?? So right now it's really all up to you which route you wanna go. You can be a sex hound and bug the out of her until she finally gives in. Not like she doesn't resent you enough already for getting her pregnant in the first place. You still have your needs, right? Or...yes there's an option here... You can stop being selfish about, everything. Because that's all it is. You don't have a right to be mad in your situation. And if you think 8 weeks is long, time marches on my friend. so don't sweat the small stuff. and as long as you do as you are told and nothing less than whats expected of you. Like a good dog,.,. Maybe momma will find it in her heart to toss you a bone once in awhile. Now SIT!! and learn this lesson from someone that someone's already learned the hard way... and Godbless, sincerely, I'm out......"A"

Have to wonder why his "old lady" isn't more interested in having sex with this guy - NOT! Is the sensitivity scale still being used?

At least OP has figured out the various body parts over the past two years - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...rts-57955.html

[Catsmine]

After looking up your older posts, gregmjohn, I must also congratulate you on being able to become a father after your sex change.



No soup for you!

[Alty]

Now I can't wait for Gregmjohn to come back. Or is it GeorginamJosephine?

So confused. :(

[jmjoseph]

hey man, you are entitled to what you feel, and don't let some of these other ball-busters that post on this site try and castrate you for wanting sex from your old lady. we are men. thats what we always want, it's in our programming. but the sad truth of it all is that you are going to have to learn how to do without. and that freaky little thing you use to jump in the bed with at nite just isn't in to that thing anymore, and when you feel like jumping into the sack with her when she's in bed already in bed, odds are; when you go to roll her over she'll have a baby suckleing her teet. ahh! what a boner bender. it sounds like you are in the early stages of parenting, and this is you two's first child together. Right?? So right now it's really all up to you which route you wanna go. You can be a sex hound and bug the out of her until she finally gives in. Not like she doesn't resent you enough already for getting her pregnant in the first place. You still have your needs, right? Or...yes there's an option here... You can stop being selfish about, everything. Because that's all it is. You don't have a right to be mad in your situation. And if you think 8 weeks is long, time marches on my friend. so don't sweat the small stuff. and as long as you do as you are told and nothing less than whats expected of you. Like a good dog,.,. Maybe momma will find it in her heart to toss you a bone once in awhile. Now SIT!! and learn this lesson from someone that someone's already learned the hard way... and Godbless, sincerely, I'm out......"A"

Let's see, you start by saying to ignore all the other people here( mistake), the "ballbusters", and then you jump on the bandwagon, and say " stop being selfish", about "EVERYTHING". Am I correct? So which is it?

Should this person, who apparently seems to be a "troll", listen to YOU, with a total of ONE post, or listen to the other people, who have years and years, of experience with these types of things?

And you say to listen to YOU, because you have a child too? There are hundreds of THOUSANDS of parents on this site. You are not Adam.

Welcome to the site, but learn that we usually don't recommend starting your involvement here with telling someone to discount what the rest of us say.

And some of us are GENTLEMEN, and don't refer to our wives as "old ladies", and "freaky little things".

Just saying...

[JudyKayTee]

Not so sure Mr. One Post and the OP aren't the same person.