[beastuten]

Ive seen multiple variations of this question on this site but I still have a feeling of wanting to ask. I love this girl well she is my best friend. So obviously I told her I loved her and she told me the same we are still friends. We have kissed accidentally one time I shoved her away so I know she wants something more than just the guy friend, doormat, emotional crap. I go out and flirt with other girls all the time in fact she's there half the time(because you know were bestfriends and all) watching this and gets MAD lol. I'm confused still yes I'm in love with this girl, yes she knows it, I'm confused I don't understand why she doesn't leave help me!

[talaniman]

How old are you both, and do you know her boyfriend?

[sabrewolfe]

You might want to stop hanging out with her as all that does it cause you pain.

[Devorameira]

I'm confused. You say you can't understand why she doesn't leave...yet you keep saying you love her and have told her so. Then you say you kissed, but you pushed her away. Exactly what is it that you want from her? Do you want her to break off your friendship or do you want a romantic relationship with her? :confused:

[soon2sing]

Look my best friend is in love with me, if she knows yea she'll get a little jealous. Wait are you IN love with her or DO you love her?

[ohsohappy]

She has a boyfriend. Move on. The time may come, it may not, but don't put your life on hold because of it. If she wanted to be with you, then she would be. But she's dating him, no matter what she says, she hasn't left him yet, so I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you, unless you're willing to suffocate. Your choice.

[beastuten]

Talnania 25 and 26. Devoramerira pushed her away cause I know she's in a relationship. Soon2sing and ohsohappy I do love her and I try to move on but like I said she's been my best friend for so many years so its much harder than normal. I have had other relationships since then like I stated before I flirt about trying to move on but I guess never had that "connection" with other girls like I do her.

[talaniman]

So does that mean you can't have those intense feelings, and handle them?

Be friends, but do other things with other people, so you can learn to cope with your feelings, and live in reality.

Your problem is more broadening your horizons, and knowing you can have those feelings for many females, but don't have to act foolishly because of them.

Get a grip on yourself.

[beastuten]

Intense feelings yes but, who doesn't for a best friend you've grown up with even if you weren't sexually attracted to them.

[talaniman]

That's what I mean, we all have those feelings, we cope, and don't let those feelings drive us crazy, or make bad decisions because of them. We enjoy our friendships, and stay within the bounds of good behavior, and respect, toward the friends we love.

[ohsohappy]

Seriously, just find another girl. I've had friends that I REALLY cared for, but I never went for it, I found my own guy, and I'm MUCH happier that way.