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    Dec 22, 2009, 01:52 AM
    My girlfreind 0f 5 years has dumped me yet again for 5th time what to do ?
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    I met my girlfriend of 5yrs in school. For 1 year we stayed apart,then she came to study in the same city where I was studying. We had decided that we would continue although we were miles apart. In the last 5 years she has dumped me 5 times, yet again she dumps me for 6th time.initially break ups were due to fear that her parent wouldn't accept me. 2 years back when she dumped me, she said she doesn't miss me and all that,this time again she said "i don't miss you, I don't think about you,i don't think I love you" I don't understand what she wants. She has always supported me in anything that I do. She would even fast for me. Last year she even visited my home although I asked her not to, since the journey is long, and not safe. 1 month back she got pregnant with my baby, and had to abort since we're still studying, she was so tensed up, would call me frequently call me. Problem here is she's the one who breaks the relationship and then comes back to me, I love her so much that I always take her back, sometimes I feel she knows how much I love her ,and for same reason takes me for granted,there are time I feel she's so heartless to break my heart, what should I do please any suggestion.
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    Dec 22, 2009, 02:05 AM

    This time I suggest you stay dumped and get your own life back. Go no contact and move on.
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    Dec 22, 2009, 06:36 AM

    Stay away, how many times are you going to be her yo-yo? She goes and gets her rocks off with someone else and then knows you will be waiting for her.
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    Dec 22, 2009, 07:22 AM
    I'm guessing that you're ready to get dumped again?

    Quit being her doormat. Put your foot down already.
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    Dec 22, 2009, 04:56 PM

    Disappear from her life, or it will be 6 times.
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    Dec 22, 2009, 05:12 PM
    Any furthers details on what your relationship has been like? Could you provide some reasons for the break-ups?

    To be perfectly honest with you, the fact that you keep getting dumped over and over again could mean that it's your fault. Take a look at yourself. it might be time for some introspection. It’s possible that you’ve developed some bad relationship habits, some kind of fatal flaw that keeps sinking your relationship. Take a look in the mirror and be honest about what you see. Are you overly jealous? Do you work and pay the bills? Do you drink excessively? Are you an angry person?

    If you're truly the good guy, consider yourself lucky to be out of this yo-yo relationship. Move on and find someone you can depend on.

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    A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it.
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    Dec 27, 2009, 05:37 AM
    This time don't take her back should she so offer. There are limits to the number of times you should allow yourself to be a doormat.
    Once dumped disappear from her life and get on with yours.
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    Jan 3, 2010, 05:15 AM
    I think I'm getting over her.I have stopped calling her though she says its OK if I cal
    My behaviour or habits are not at all the reasons,well I'm on my way to recovery,I have stopped calling her,in fact she called me on new year eve,she was kind of drunk,I simply hanged up on her ,n it felt nice,my birthday is coming up,should I talk to her if she calls,anyway thank you guys
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    Jan 3, 2010, 05:43 AM

    I can't make sense out your couple of lines. You need to make sentences, and make some sense, so we can understand and help you.
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    Jan 3, 2010, 06:00 AM

    Why would you want to even talk to someone who has dumped you how many times??
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    Jan 3, 2010, 06:15 AM

    Don't get drawn back into any communication with this toxic person.
    You disappear from her life-ignore all contact.
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    Apr 9, 2011, 02:57 AM
    Hey I know exactly what you are going through as I have been recently dumped by a guy for the 6th time. We started dating when wer too young and continued happily for 4 n a half year. After that its all been a mess. I guess the only solution to it is to let go and make yr self so strong that the next time she comes back you say a no to her. I know it is easier said that done but its only you ho can decide what you want in life.

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