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    Dec 25, 2009, 05:59 PM
    I love my ex boyfriend but his living with a new girlfriend
    My ex boyfriend broke up with me like a year ago, because I didn't want to spend weekends with him because I was ashame that my family find out that I was having sex without being married and because of religious issues. He was the first person I had sex with and I love him so much because he was sweet and tried to understand me, but I couldn't understand his feelings due to my inexperience. He got tired of waiting for me to change. However, there was another problem that came on the way(his ex girlfriend) she started to calling him and we fought for that reason. We weren't happy as we were at the beginning. His ex girlfriend calls and me don't wantig to spend weekends in his apartment make him break up with me. However, we were going out as friends every now and then, but we never went back together as boyfriend and girlfriend. Last year in January he asked me to expend the long weekend holiday with him to see how it would be living together. I told him that my sister was visiting and that we could do it any other weekend. He got very dissapointed and he said that it had to be that weekend,and I insisted that we could wait.

    Now he has a new girlfriend, a woman that rented a room in his apartment with her son, and I still love him with all my heart.

    I love to be back with him now that I am more mature and I don't know if there is any hope for me. Please, let me know if there is anything I can do. I saw hin this week that he stopped by my job to help me with something I had to do in my office phone and we had lunch together after that we kissed and right after that he told me that he had to go because he has a girlfriend. I didn't say anything and I decided to leave without saying anything.
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    Dec 25, 2009, 06:22 PM
    I can't understand why you'd want to be back with a selfish man who obviously doesn't care. Your relationship failing had nothing to do with your inexperience or immaturity. It only has to do with him being a spoiled brat that wants everything to go his way or else. A man that cares about you would be sensitive to your feelings. You are better off without him.

    I would advise that you stay completely away from him and have no contact. Otherwise he's just going to use you and keep you hanging just in case his new relationship falls apart. You deverve better.

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    Dec 25, 2009, 06:33 PM

    Let me see, for some reason he has made you feel like you did something wrong, standing up for your feelings and values and that "he was right" but will not see it as it was, he was wrong in trying to force you to be at a place you were not ready for.

    In fact he could not have really loved you, since real love does not need or force sex, he could have or should have waited months or years if you were that important to hm.

    He has moved you, have you started dating again,
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    Dec 25, 2009, 07:23 PM

    In my opinion sex outside of marage is not good. When I dated this one guy, we thought we knew what love was so we thought we where in love. However he sexually abused me several times. If you really love someone you wouldn't abuse them at all! No one deserves abuse, not you or anyone!
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    Dec 26, 2009, 09:06 AM

    How can I edit or delete my post. I have tried the sugested options, but there is not any edit botton.
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    Dec 26, 2009, 09:43 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by oiris View Post
    How can I edit or delete my post. I have tried the sugested options, but there is not any edit botton.
    Why do you want to?
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    Dec 26, 2009, 10:04 AM

    He just wanted free sex and half the bills paid, that's not love, its manipulation, because he still is rubbing it in by seeing you, and making sure you feel bad, and guilty, like its your fault.

    If he does indeed have a new girlfriend, chances are he was cheating on you both, filling both your heads with nonsense he didn't mean, and guess what, he is still cheating on her with you.

    Get over this liar.

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