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lylas · Nov 26, 2006, 06:15 PM

Okay so my ex broke up with me 2 years ago but we've never stopped talking, both of us have dated since but he wants to try our relationship again...
The problem we had the first time was that he had more sexual experience than I did and still does. He wants to share different sexual experiences with me and I want to, but some times I feel myself pulling back and not letting myself be in the moment. I realize that sex is a very important part of a relationship and I want to be what he needs sexually, but sometimes it is intimidating and I'm not sure what to say or do. Add that sexual insecurity to all the factors that go into getting back with an ex and it just gets complicated. How do I let myself enjoy different sexual experiences without clamming up and getting nervous or intimadated all while pleasing him?

No idea what I'm doing
lylas

freewillorfate · Nov 26, 2006, 07:08 PM

Well, first before you can allow yourself to adopt to all his sexual desires, you must first be sure that the relationship in which you're rekindling is going somewhere and it's not just sex! Once you realize that, then you'll go with the flow

Fr_Chuck · Nov 26, 2006, 08:28 PM

actully most people put way too much importance into sexual activity.

A real relationship depends on talking, having things in common.
And it is OK, to say no you don't want to do some forms of sexual expression, if you don't want to, just say no, if they care for the relatinship, they won't care. If they put sex and forms of sex over the relationship, then they are not really in it for the right reasons.

JoeCanada76 · Nov 26, 2006, 08:53 PM

Sex in a relationship is not as important as you make it out to be. Maybe for some people, but people are different. That is why it is best to become best friends, getting to know each other. TWO BIG WORDS I LIKE USING WHICH ARE VERY IMPORTANT. COMMUNICATION AND COMPROMISE.

To put so much importance on sex, is just going to give you a big let down. The more you worry, the more you dwell, the more you think. The less chanch of you actually being in the moment. The less chanch of you being relax. The less chanch of you being satisfied or even coming to orgasm.

Why does it all have to be about pleasing him? If that is one or the main reason for him being your ex, then he needs to remain your ex. Why can't it be about the man pleasing the women sexually.

Too many man, from stories. Are only interested in satisfying their own needs, which in all likely hood does not take that long, so guess what it needs to be the man. The man doing more, pleasuring more, satisfying more, and spending a lot more time on foreplay with women. That is needed.

Now can you relax.

Joe (Good Luck)