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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:07 PM
    He won't take me back because I slept with another guy. What do I do?
    I was in a relationship with aa guy for the past 2.5yrs though the last couple of months have been rocky. He has on a number of occasions become physically abusive. But it was so hard to let him go.a few days ago we broke up. The following day I slept with another guy and my ex found out but now I want him back but he no longer wants me. What do I do?
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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:09 PM

    If he is physically abusive, stay away from him! Seriously! You can do so much better than a guy that beats you.

    If he continnues to threaten you or physically abuse you, I'd recommend going to the police.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:11 PM

    Why do you want him back, do you have no self esteem, no pride?

    He abuses you. Do you think that going back to him, after having sex with someone else ,will make the relationship better? Seriously, he's an abuser, that's not going to change.

    Walk away, heck, run away, don't look back.

    Guys like this don't stop being abusive, in fact it usually gets worse.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by shelby2 View Post
    what do i do?
    Be thankful.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:17 PM
    You thank your lucky stars he doesn't want you back,he's been abusing you,and that's not acceptable,NO way.
    Take time for yourself and get over him, be single and start enjoying your own life.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:37 PM
    You truly want an abusive man to take you back? Seriously now - that's totally insane. Count your lucky stars and move on!

    It is very unlikely that your man will ever change his ways. Actually his behavior will get worse and worse until you end up injured and broken (physically and mentally). Put that life behind you and find someone that loves and respects you. You deserve an equal - not a monster!

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    A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 03:01 PM

    Even though my ex got with a guy the same night day I broke up with her, technically she was single so I can't be mad if that was her method of getting over me...

    You do realize that you were single when you slept with the guy right?

    You did nothing wrong and don't be stupid like a lot of women who have been abusive relationships and go back to him...
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    Dec 10, 2009, 03:02 PM

    It shouldn't cross your mind to go back to an abusive boyfriend.

    Don't do it hun. It's best to keep miles away from him.
    Find someone who will treat you better.

    Listen to everyone else.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 05:35 PM

    If you want an abusive partner back, you need a lot of help. I hope you get it, as that's not healthy.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 10:47 PM
    How abusive is physically abusive? I know I would accidentially hurt my girlfriend. Never intended to cause her physical harm, does he punch you or... it denpends on what your definitin of physical abuse is. I think he loves you, nothing is ever going to stop from showing you his love for you. Obsticals get in the way, you sleeping with someone else will raise some red flags about faithfullness, and what you really want. If he truly loves you it may be very hard for him but he will foregive you. Grudges never solves anything. After being in a relationshiop for that long obviousely shows that you have great feelings for him. Have you ever talked to about the physical abuse? Communication can make a relationship so much easier, but if he is physically punching you and beatng you up then stay away from him.
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    Dec 11, 2009, 04:21 AM

    If she is throwing the word abuse around at all, I have noticed that it usually is justied. Listen, if this guy is physically abusing you, and you still want him back, you need to get some serious help. Now sleeping with a guy the DAY AFTER YOU BROKE UP is a little ridiculous, which also doesn't speak to well on your behalf. Get your life together before you worry about sharing it with someone else
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