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    Dec 8, 2009, 08:49 PM
    I really like this girl, but I don't know how to get her to like me. Please help.
    This is my first girl I've been intrested in and I do not know any signs that she would do, and I don't know what I need to do on my part as well.
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    Dec 8, 2009, 09:09 PM

    Just so you know, my advice is an unfortunate reality, but it works. Ok so you need to jokingly make fun of her and point out little flaws without actually offending her. I'm not saying to be mean. It doesn't have to be true but it kind of throws a girl off balance. Make it witty so she laughs. Do this as much as possible. The way to think about it is that what we want is something different than what we have. Do not let this girl know that you like her at first. She will end up wanting you if she believes that she can't get you. Its weird to think about, but its true. Same as someone wanting an xbox. You want it because you don't have it.
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    Dec 8, 2009, 09:29 PM

    We are newlly formed friends, could that get in the way?
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    Dec 8, 2009, 09:54 PM

    And also, are there any signs that I could see that she likes me, is there a certain way that I would have to act? Sorry for all of these questions, I am just completely clueless about this kind of thing.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 12:44 PM
    Thread moved to Teen section

    How old are you?

    Ask her on a date and go from there.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 12:49 PM

    Tell her you like her and ask her if she feels the same way.

    Don't tease her or play any other childish games. You're not 5 right? So just be honest.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 12:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Rockursock View Post
    Just so you know, my advice is an unfortunate reality, but it works. Ok so you need to jokingly make fun of her and point out little flaws without actually offending her. I'm not saying to be mean. It doesn't have to be true but it kind of throws a girl off balance. Make it witty so she laughs. Do this as much as possible. The way to think about it is that what we want is something different than what we have. Do not let this girl know that you like her at first. She will end up wanting you if she believes that she can't get you. Its weird to think about, but its true. Same as someone wanting an xbox. You want it because you don't have it.
    Then put gum in her hair and taunt her on the playground.

    Are you kidding me?

    I am a girl and I can tell you that this doesn't work. If a guy jokingly makes fun of me like you suggested, he quickly goes from possible friend to a jerk that I avoid.

    If you play games then you'll get games in return. If you want a real relationship then you're honest and upfront, even if it means getting hurt.

    This is the worst advice I've heard in a long time. Even my 11 year old knows better then this. :rolleyes:
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    Dec 9, 2009, 01:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by I wish View Post
    How old are you?

    Ask her on a date and go from there.

    I am 16
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    Dec 9, 2009, 01:32 PM

    Instead of worrying about how she feels about you, just keep talking to her and getting to know her better. Let things flow naturally.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 01:38 PM

    So I don't ask her to go out on a date. I just wait until the right time, then ask, right?
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    Dec 9, 2009, 02:00 PM
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    So I dont ask her to go out on a date. I just wait until the right time, then ask, right?
    I think that's best. Because it doesn't sound like you know her very well anyway. When an opportunity comes up (e.g. if she mentions a movie that she wants to watch during your conversation), then ask her out. But there's no need to rush out and get a date.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 02:06 PM

    I just don't want to do anything stupid, since I go to high school that only has 25 kids attending, because then everybody would know.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 02:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    I am a girl and I can tell you that this doesn't work. If a guy jokingly makes fun of me like you suggested, he quickly goes from possible friend to a jerk that I avoid.
    Lulz. Well there you go, teasing doesn't work on every woman, but not every woman likes a nice guy either. What you really need to do is evaluate her and play your game accordingly. Regardless, even if you make an awful impression by making fun of her, rest assured she'll remember you.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 02:15 PM

    I would not feel right making fun of a girl that I have feelings for, I wouldn't want to hurt her in any way.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 07:56 PM

    I have one more question, once or if we do get together, how do I make it last. I don't want to be one of those guys who have a new girl friend every other week.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 02:46 PM

    Why don't you ask her how she feels about you. If you are not friends, why don't you become friends BEFORE you get romantically involved, this will save a lot of stress, and you won't end up in a relationship with a girl that you hardly know. You cannot "get her to like you." This would be extremely disrespectful and wrong on your part. All you can do is try to cultivate a friendship and start with that.
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    Dec 10, 2009, 06:10 PM

    The best relationships start as friendships first.

    At the age of 16 it's not likely that you're going to find "the one". Dating is fun, so date, have fun, get to know new people.

    I can guarantee that you will get your heart broken, at least once. It happens to all of us, usually more then once. It hurts, but trust me, the pain is worth the experience.

    Just be a friend for now. Hang out, have fun together and don't be so nervous about approaching her. She's a human being too. She's probably just as nervous about dating as you are.

    Big deep breath and relax. Enjoy your teen years, they're fun. :)

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