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curiousone777 · Nov 25, 2006, 08:11 PM

Is there something wrong with me? I mean, h'es young.. around my age... His eyes, his hair, his smile, his laugh, his everything gives me butterflies... All I have to do is look at him... Am I tramp for liking a married man? I can't help who I like... Can I?:confused:

J_9 · Nov 25, 2006, 08:25 PM

No, you can't help who you like. But he is married for crying out loud!!

If you were married how would you feel if your husband did this to you?

Have you read all of the other threads about women falling for married men? If not, I suggest you do so.

I am sorry, but you will not get people here on your side, they all are on the side of the unsuspecting wife.

phillysteakandcheese · Nov 25, 2006, 08:27 PM

I agree with J_9... You can definitely feel attraction for the guy, but you can't act on those feelings.

Bluerose · Nov 25, 2006, 08:43 PM

This might seem a bit strong but the difference between most of us and common criminals is that most of us learn to control our thoughts words and actions and stay on the right side of the law.

If it is a simple attraction, no harm done. Nothing wrong with that. But if it's more, or you wish it was, then you are in the wrong, he's a married man.

Feel the attraction, enjoy, feed your hungry eyes - But don't touch! He's not yours!

Now it is up to you to take control of yourself.

curiousone777 · Nov 25, 2006, 08:47 PM

You guys are right... he is married.. and Im sure I'll eventually get over him... But hey, if him and his wife don't work out.. then... Im definitely going for it! Haha. Im sure I can find someone just as great.. Thanks!

J_9 · Nov 25, 2006, 08:49 PM

Yes, you can go for it. But remember you will be a rebound relationship, not good.

I am curious too, you make it all sound like a joke.

curiousone777 · Nov 25, 2006, 08:50 PM

What do u mean?

ImWho · Nov 25, 2006, 09:20 PM

But hey, if him and his wife don't work out.. then... Im definitely going for it! Haha. Im sure I can find someone just as great.. Thanks!

I think you should keep your distance, and find some single eye candy. Wedding vows are pretty serious business. And so is divorce if this guy is unfortunate and ends up going through one. It's not very lighthearted at all!

talaniman · Nov 26, 2006, 03:55 AM

You sound young so you probably think if he looks at you, he loves you and then you will believe any line he feeds you. We ALL find attraction with other people, but we know some of those people are out of bounds. Look, but don't touch. The wife very seldom leaves for some strange reason so don't hold your breathe for them to break-up anytime soon.

Geoffersonairplane · Nov 26, 2006, 04:57 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

I am curious too, you make it all sound like a joke.

Originally Posted by curiousone777

what do u mean??

I think it was just the way you worded your response curiousone in your response before J_9's.

Whether this was intentional or not, it is important for you to understand that this situation is serious and you must follow the advice here not to act on your feelings. I doubt he will leave his wife for you and any relationship you could possibly have with him if he did would likely be a rebound.

Does the very fact that he is married attract you? Do you see it as a challenge?

I am saying all of this because I want you to understand that it is hurtful to have feelings for someone who cannot reciprocate these feelings back. You could also misinterpret signals and read into things more.

This also makes you vulnerable to being used.. Read Tal's previous post...

Find someone who is single and available, this guy is not for you.. He is married and I'm afraid that is that!

Plenty more fish (and sharks) in the see!!

Allheart · Nov 26, 2006, 05:23 AM

Your youth is screaming through your post, so I will attribute your non-chalant attidude to that.

I have a feeling you will drop this idea and move on to something more suiting for a young lady full of energy and fun.

These actually are some of the best years... enjoy them. Soon enough you will have a guy of your very own, in the meantime, use that incredible energy and youth on things that will keep a smile on your face and cause no hurt to anyone's heart, including yours.!

ladyred1 · Jan 31, 2007, 08:44 AM

Ive just walked away from attached man after him being a shoulder to cry on when my head was messed up with another Ive known this man a year and it started us being friends at first then became sexual but then it all went wrong when I found him out trying to meet up with another women in his denile he said we were getting close lets go back to being friends. I'm still reflecked on mwhy I went down both these path and hve started healing (didnt think the healing would ever happen after what I went through,to add to this I had to resign in my job which was,nt my fault Ive now got a new job to start soon.It feels like my hole world has changed getting rid of all the rubbish that was around me. I have started chatting with a divorced man not long thou that has himselve come come out of a relationship and was hurt to we get on good and hve many things in common when we chat this chat is in the gent way he is happy to be patient with me until I settle with in my work I feel that I can't have any more hurt in my life. So why do I feel so empty as if I just want to be with myself and my dog. Even thou its lonely for me I just want to be happy againand feel, that's so far off for me.