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    Dec 8, 2009, 07:17 PM
    Ex girl friend Ignoring me?
    I don't know what to do? Me and my ex-girlfriend where together for 2 years, we got engaged. She broke it off last month, after 2 days she called me and said she still loves me and misses me. We talked for the following weeks on good standards, like flirted with each other. Then I asked if she wanted to get together? She said she would think about it. Then I said that's fine, a week went by and we talked still and I told her I wanted to know where we stand? She said I still want to think about it, So I told here that I went out with my friend Michelle for lunch, got upset with me, then I told her it is just a friend.Nothing to worry about, she said OK. Now the next 3 day's she called over 19 times saying I still have feelings for you, and flirted with me a lot. Then 2 day's after that she won't answer my calls and won't call me back? What do I do? I am so upset. This is not like her not to call back it all?
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    Dec 8, 2009, 07:25 PM

    You leave her alone and stop acting like a little Puppy who's willing to be there for her at her beckoned call.

    If she still loved you she wouldn't have dumped you , she may well say that she still loves you but her actions suggest otherwise , she's playing games with your feelings because she knows she can. That'll only continue for as long as you allow it.
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    Dec 8, 2009, 08:58 PM
    Yep great advice. Furthermore, somebody who truly loves you would not play these sort of games with your heart. Don't talk to her period, she'll get the message eventually that you are not going to stand for this hot / cold manipulation.
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    Dec 8, 2009, 09:11 PM

    Yup games.

    And you are still playing.

    This girl doesn't know what she wants. She doesn't have real feelings.

    Give her a message. Silence forever.

    You will laugh later.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 05:23 AM

    This is over, but I don't think she wants you to move on, and get with some one else.

    How old are you both?
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    Dec 9, 2009, 07:46 AM
    You want to know where she stands? You don't need to hear it from her mouth. Actions speak louder than words. You've become her back up plan.

    She no longer has any strings attached to you. So she can go out with any guy she wants. If it doesn't work out with other guys, she can always come crying back to you. Why be someone's safety net?
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    Dec 9, 2009, 08:41 AM

    You're her back up plan, the guy waiting in the wings for when she needs you. Is that what you want? You'll never be number one, at best you'll be sloppy seconds.

    The way she's acting towards you makes it very clear that she's no longer interested in a relationship with you, but she doesn't want to lose you completely, just in case she can't find someone better.

    It's up to you to cut all contact and get on with your life. You deserve to be with someone that loves you enough to treat you with love. This girl isn't it.

    No contact. It works.
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    Dec 9, 2009, 08:46 AM

    Let her go... NO COMMUNICATION! I know because I am going through it now!. life will get better and this can't be your first breakup... you will get over it...

    I had been cheated on twice in my life and I made it through those break ups! Live life for yourself and not for her...

    Girls like to play games like this to see how much reaction they can get out of you and keep you on a leash!

    Man up and break the binds that tie you! Im going through it now my friend and I know you can do it! If I can, then I definitely know you can!

    "Stick to your entree, get over your sides....."
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    Dec 9, 2009, 03:51 PM

    Thanks for all the advice!! Sounds like the best thing to do...
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    Jan 3, 2010, 06:16 PM
    35 and she is 40
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    Jan 4, 2010, 03:12 AM

    How are you? Any update?
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    Apr 19, 2010, 05:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by friend4u178 View Post
    You leave her alone and stop acting like a little Puppy who's willing to be there for her at her beckoned call.

    If she still loved you she wouldn't have dumped you , she may well say that she still loves you but her actions suggest otherwise , she's playing games with your feelings because she knows she can. That'll only continue for as long as you allow it.
    Very very true

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