[HeartTrips]

When I dropped her off tonight I put my hand around her waist to and tried to go in for the kiss but she turned away, I just wanted to thank her and end the night with a kiss but she just didn't want no part of it.

[paxe]

You may want to ask her where your relationship is going. It's better to be straight and forward in that case.

[amicon]

Paxe makes a good point,I too,think it's time to talk.

[HeartTrips]

Its just unbelievable

[amicon]

Do you mean her reaction?
Have you discussed it?

[talaniman]

How could he not have at least asked her what's wrong?

[HeartTrips]

You her reaction, but also how difficult this has been. I mean its just a little bit of bs if you ask me, why the hell does a kiss have to be so difficult. I didn't want to kiss her in the car as a first kiss between her and me but I was just trying to say goodnight with something other then a hug, its just ridiculous. Were talking about a kiss. I don't get this girl. It just hurts because I don't know what her problem is.

What's funny is that this happened last night and now it's the morning. The day after. She is at work, we always get together for a few hours after she gets off and comes home. Usually there is a text or two between us during the day.

Its different today because she knows that I wanted to give her a kiss last night, even though I didn't want to have the first kiss between her and I in the car when I dropped her off.

I don't know what is going to happen today and I'm sure she doesn't know what the hell to do now either. Obviously were going to talk about what is going on, its unbelievable.

Every weekend we have been together since July. Everyday for a few hours during the week but 5 days since July we have been together.

There is something terribly wrong tal, because their should be no reason why we I can't show her how special she is with a kiss. Its friggin bs. Friends don't do what her and I have been doing.

Its already been discussed that there is something going on, and that she wanted to take it slow. How she hopes this is the beginning and how she isn't seeing anybody else.

Kissing isn't taking it slow?

[amicon]

Well then discuss it when you meet up,and find out where all this is going,it's about time some decisions were made.

[HeartTrips]

I just got my usual Monday morning text from her , I haven't opened it to see what it says yet. I love this girl and I wish I could tell her that, but its only been 6 months since we met and a month and a half since we discussed that there are feelings involved that aren't friend feelings.

[jmw0713]

Ummm... I don't know about everyone else, but to me it looks like this is a very one sided relationship. If after 5 months you haven't even been able to kiss her, I don't know how long your going to wait to get any further.

From the start, it looked like you were extremely needy and too available. You guy's were not even officially dating and you were hanging out with her like she was the best show in town. Don't you have a life outside of just her? I know you do!

In my opinion after waiting all this time, you have be imprisoned in the dreaded friend zone. You have been over analyzing her every action and word. Instead of making a move, which should have happened months ago, you instead wanted to try and make sense of everything that has happened between you and wait for the "perfect time/moment". She saw this and now you're here... stuck.

It looks like the ship to romance with her ship may have sailed. You waited too long. If it was me, I would have waited 2 months at the most to see how things were progressing. If at that time it didn't feel right, it would never feel right. I would have still kept her as a friend, but would have turned my romantic efforts elsewhere. You should have done the same thing.

You kept chasing the carrot at the end of the stick.

I have found that that you know when things feel right. It just happens. Sometimes it happens in the movie theater. Sometimes it happens in the parking lot. A kiss is a kiss. If you wait for the "perfect moment" for it to happen, it never will!

Just a simple kiss on the lips would have been all either of you would have needed to know how things would be. You didn't need to tell what YOU wanted to do. You just needed to get it done. You didn't need to tell here this:

I said back to her that I'm dropping you off now and I know we hug but that doesn't mean I don't want to slowly kiss up your neck and nibble on your ear and stuff

You should have just leaned over and planted one on her. Telling her made it obvious that you were trying too hard to impress her. She has been seeing that the whole time. You never let her investigate find out things about you... you just gave all of that information, and mystery, away. This is the result.

Now that you are here, you have two choices:

1. Keep chasing her and not get anywhere anytime soon

2. Keep her as a friend and devote your romantic feelings else where.

Sorry for the harsh reality, but that's how I see it.

[HeartTrips]

Gm sweetness, hope you have an amazing day! I had a wonderful wknd with you and can't wait to talk with you later, Enjoy your day.

That's the text I got from her,

I responded with

GM to you lovely laady, have a great day, great wknd 4 sure, I look forward to talkn too, all the best today babycakes.

This thread is going to end after today,

I appreciate all the advice and help,

Her and I love each other and are going to end up together, we already are together, its just new to us and its been such a blessing for the two of us.

All the best.

[jmw0713]

Good luck man! I hope everything works out for you both.

[HeartTrips]

She said I have never really told her how I feel, can I get some help?

She wants to know how I feel,

I know how I feel,

I love her,

She makes me feel the way love is suppose to feel I believe. The way its suppose to feel because of the communication we have and the way we want to take it slow and build a foundation. She makes me feel the way I have loved before but with a love that I believe will grow and can be returned in a way that is reciprocal of the love I give.

She also want to ome be the one intitiating physical relations.

I can use any comments on my 2 situations. Thanks a bunch, Gb.


Having someone to love you as much as you love him
• Having someone to treat you with the utmost respect, love and kindness.
• Having someone that doesn’t take you for granted but loves and cherish you.
• Having someone that understands you.
• Having someone that allows you to be you.
• Having someone that’s a good communicator to you.
• Having someone that makes you feel like you’re the greatest person on earth, his queen.
• Having someone that enjoys being in your presence.
• Having someone that brings out the best in you

These are the feelings I would believe I have for her

[amicon]

If that's the way you feel,that's what you should tell her.
A simple I love you might do for starters.
I take it this is the woman from your other thread?
Have you ever discussed why she seems to be having issues about physical contact?

[spitvenom]

How old are both of you, and how long have the two of you been dating?

[HeartTrips]

We are being physical now, still taking things slow, which we have both agreed, we have come pretty close together recently,
We are "exclusive" and a couple of days ago our conversation led to her saying that I haven't really told her how I feel about her other then little ways in text messages over the months and little ways through lets say bringing her lunch, buying her a flower etc.

I'm 28 and she is 30.

I feel like she completes me.

I would only be honest with her but I don't know really what that means...

I'm responsible and don't want to ruin a good thing...

She and I have done so well since we first met...

I feel really good about her...

I want to purpose to her...

[Romefalls19]

I'm not sure if you should tell her you love her if you started being a couple a few days ago. Tell her how much you care for her without using the love word. It complicates things early on in the relationship if you drop it too quickly. Think about things carefully and make sure you are completely in love with her

[heyimcarol]

My boyfriend said it after two weeks and that scared me I didn't know how to reaspond mostly because there was nothing that could have hinted he felt that way, but it sounds like she already knows from your actions. I'd give it two weeks to a month then say it casually like after a date when your saying goodbye, if she doesn't say it back that night you will hear it within days.

[HeartTrips]

Thanks for all your help everyone, your posts were very honest and open and that is something money can't buy.

All my love.

[LJDK]

I would just tell her "i love you"
There are many theories, different perspectives and life experiences you can listen to. You can take all that into account and play it safe. Or you could just follow your heart and remember one little thing. While you are busy thinking things through, making plans and wondering what if and what if... Life is happening.