[looknrnd]

Beyond my issues with being unable to be fully content being alone, and constantly wanting a relationship, how do I move on from a heavy crush that is perfect in all but one way: he doesn't want me?

[mudweiser]

I had one of those.

His name was Wesley. Haha oh baby zeus...

I thought he was perfect. When he walked I heard nothing, it was slow-mo. I thought he was gorgeous, his laugh... his everything was just amazing. He didn't want me [I was ugly in grade school haha].

I "loved" him [like a stalker] for a few years.

We went to separate High Schools, and then I saw him one day, he was fat, pimply and smelly. He wanted me then and I was like "ewww". Haha

Well that's my story.

Chances are that's your Wesley. Chances are he's mean to you like Wesley was to me. Chances are it's better that your not with him.

The best way to stop obessing is well.. hell I'll be honest, until it gets to your head that he doesn't want you and you should move on.

For now, go out with friends, try and get a part-time job, get off the net and do stuff. Keep busy... it'll help.

[jaime90]

You need to spend some time alone without a boyfriend. You need to learn about who you are and what you want out of a guy... The more you WANT a guy, the more likely you will compromise your values to get one, and the more likely you will end up with a guy that is abusive, unfair, or treats you badly, and you will find it hard to leave him. Being alone is sometimes a good thing-the more you know yourself, know your boundaries, and know what YOU want, the more you will have stronger relationships-guys like girls that are confident in themselves, and somewhat independent, not needy and dependent on them.

Do not contact this crush of yours. You can do nothing to change the way he feels, and it would be extremely disrespectful and cruel to try. You need to simply move on to bigger and better things- there are guys out there who you don't know, who would like to date you- so go out and find THEM as oppose to you stewing over a guy that doesn't even want you. (oh yeah, and you say this guy is perfect, but let's be honest, he is a crush, and there's a good chance you hardly know the guy. To protect yourself and guard your heart, it would be in your best interest to get to know a guy a little better before you want to jump into a relationship with him.)