[godson12]

OK here's what happen, first off I am a virgin. So I am with my girlfriend and we start engaging in sexual activities. First well I perform oral sex I have an erection, I stop it goes away, so she performs oral sex and I have a nice erection. Then I put the condom on and by the time I go to insert it in her, I have lost my erection. I have never had a problem staying hard. I think it could be because I was so nervous, cause I was. Any help would be appreciated.

[Thomas1970]

Hi Godson,
I agree, it was probably just simple anxiety. If you find it continues to be a problem, it might be worth talking with your doctor -- just to have a general physical exam and make sure there are no underlying medical conditions causing such difficulties. Depending somewhat on your age, possible causes could range from diabetes to high blood pressure to prostate enlargement. Though, if you are younger and seem otherwise healthy, I wouldn't worry. Just try to relax and enjoy your time together. Hopefully she's there for more than simply to judge your performance. :)

[godson12]

Thanks, I am only 17 by the way

[Thomas1970]

Hi Godson,
You're welcome. Very unlikely it is anything other than anxiety. :)

[bubbler_77]

Hi godson, you have been given some good advise above ! Sounds like you may be getting the limp blues because your getting worked up about what's happening and also because your doing new things, and your mind is going onto over drive and a little panic is setting in. It's good that your using protection as you should always keep yourself down there well wrapped, but also please be aware that condoms are not a 100% safe guard from sti's (std's).

I would say that you and your girlfriend need to take things a step at a time, enjoy being together and get full relaxed and at ease with one another being nude and doing stuff and I'm sure you will find you don't have a problems keeping it up.