[clivern]

My wife used to be a pornstar and though she told me before we got married I find it very difficult to deal with ,how can I let go of this?

[Alty]

my wife used to be a pornstar and though she told me before we got married i find it very difficult to deal with ,how can i let go of this?

If you can't get over it, why did you marry her?

This is her past. We all have one. I'm sure you have a past as well.

What's important is your future, your lives together from this point on.

If you keep looking back you won't be able to see what's in front of you.

Maybe marriage counseling is in order.

[itried]

I'm guessing that you only married her because she's "hot" and gives you the best sex you have ever had. Bad move.

You should have known what you were getting into but were probably blinded by all the sex, now here you are, probably bored of the sex and finally realizing what you've done.

Honestly, there is no way anyone here can help you. This is just something you have to deal with for the rest of your life or get a divorce. There's no way in a million years that the average person could ever sweep her past under the rug. If you can do it then you must be the Dalai Lama or something.

Good luck, bro. You're seriously going to need it.

[boyslikegirls]

Everyone has a past. I have. You have. She has. If you keep holding on to her past, the marriage will definitely not going to last. When you love someone, you accept them unconditionally for who they are. Past doesn't matter as long as she is a changed woman and most importantly she loves you.

[talaniman]

Is she still a porn star? Why did you marry her and how long did you date?

If you didn't care before, why is it bothering you now?

[jmjoseph]

That's really the big question that I have too. If you knew that she was a porn star when you started getting serious, why didn't you deal with it then before it was too late?

Oh well, too late for that now.

Do you love your wife? I mean really love her, do you want to grow old with her?

This issue you ruin your marriage if you don't get past it. Go see a counselor, or a man of the cloth.

Good luck.

Somehow I envy you for a second, then don't so much after that.

[Devorameira]

You knew about her past when you got together, so why didn't you figure it out before? It's true, letting go of the past is easier said than done. If you are going to leave her, then leave her, but staying and letting these feelings get in the way will only ruin your relationship with her. Your marriage at this point is the priority, not your past, and not her past. You too are together now, so it is up to you to build your future, then you can look back at the past and see how much obstacles you have overcame mentally, physically, and emotionally. Someday you'll realize that is not worth holding a grudge, jealousy, insecurity, or anger towards her past experiences. If all else fails, a marriage counselor may help you get past this. Good luck!

[Fr_Chuck]

What is the problem ?

What are you having trouble getting over

[Gemini54]

Well, the way I see it, if she was a porn star that was her job.

Sure, it probably meant performing a variety of sexual acts with buffed guys with huge schlongs, but that was what she was being paid for.

She's with you isn't she? She married you didn't she? I don't imagine any of them were sexual Lotharios - it's all fairly formulaic.

If you can't get her previous employment out of your head then I suggest you seek counseling - sounds like you're feeling insecure and you need to focus on the love and connection between you, rather than her previous sexual moves.