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    Dec 1, 2009, 12:20 PM
    Confused over a co-worker's actions
    I am working overseas for the next 6 months and NEVER felt office romances were good. That is, until I hit it off with this great french guy, who was being polite and invited me to lunch with another coworker, and then a chance to see the town with him and another non french speaking co worker who had already been there for 9months. The hour long outing turned into 5 hours and included dinner. I could not help but think that I was getting glares from him that seemed a buit more than 'just a stare.' that next night, he came into my office when everyone else was pretty much gone, and we had an hour long conversation about everything. He never sat down, but he asked if I wanted to join him to this concert. I told him I did not want to intrude and respectfully declined his offer (although secretly I really wanted to go
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    Dec 1, 2009, 12:22 PM

    What's the question?
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    Dec 1, 2009, 12:49 PM
    Yes what is the question? Are you asking if he might be interested in you?
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    Dec 1, 2009, 12:54 PM

    If a guy is giving you glances, or stares (hopefully not glares), and is taking you out to dinner and trying to be romantic, he is more than likely flirting with you. For him, this could mean a lot of things... Maybe he wants to charm you, maybe he wants a long-term relationship and is interested, maybe he just wants to sleep with you... The only way you can know who this guy is and what his true intentions are, is to befriend him, and ask him. Get to know him and become friends before you get emotionally involved, or you will end up with heartbreak. (and by getting to know him, I don't mean going on these romantic outings for 3 weeks straight. You need to know where he stands with a relationship, what he would expect of you if you started dating, how he treats other women, how he treats your family, etc. If you don't learn these things now, they will certainly come up later and cause problems.)
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    Dec 1, 2009, 02:53 PM
    Use your head, and don't get carried away by feelings, and attention that's given you.

    This is your workplace, and he is a stranger, even if he is a charming co worker.

    You did well declining his offer, until there is no more confusion as to his intentions.

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