[falon]

OK about a month ago I thought my boyfriend was cheating on me, we don't use condoms, so I figured that if he was sleeping with someone else he mite use one, so I counted the condoms that we did have and last night I noticed one missing, I don't know if I should confrount him, because I know that he will just say he didn't do it, and I'm crazy ha, I'm also scared to ask because he mite break up with me, but what else could have happened to the condom we don't use them, and I sure as hell didn't take it! Help me!

[jmjoseph]

Life is too short as to count condoms.

Trust me, you don't want to live your life this way.

[falon]

So, do I just let it go?

[jmjoseph]

soo, do i just let it go?

Are there any other reasons you would suspect him of cheating?

Let him know that you are the type of person that will not accept infidelity.

Life is simply too short to have to investigate your loved one.

If you do not, or cannot, trust him, then find someone to whom you can.

[falon]

Will just that the girl I thought he was cheating on me with and him sometimes flirt and when he's taking to her and I'm trying to get his attantion its like I'm not there, I know these are little things but is it right for them to do this when they were accoused not just by me but pretty much everyone of sleeping together, and when they are doing this flirting thing in a room full of people I see the looks people give, it's a ? Look and it makes me look bad, I trust this boy with my life but I just can't trust him with this girl and its only this one girl, he could be alone in a room with 100 hot naked girls and I wouldn't care but if he was in a room alone with her fully clothed I would be freaking out, and the sad thing is this girl use to be my best friend... and so the condom missing thing I should just let go? it very confussing as to why it would be missing, unless he's cheating

[amicon]

I assume this is the guy from your previous post?

[talaniman]

Going from a missing condom to cheating is a stretch, without other things to back it up. After reading your other post though, I think there are a lot more issues going on here, like the interaction between the two of you may not be that healthy, or open.

[jmjoseph]

Sometimes we simply mis-count, or lose track. He may have stuck one away, somewhere else.

I think that it is indeed disrespectful for him, and her, to carry on in an inappropriate way, especially with you right there. Tell him about it, and how you feel. Also, let your friend know that this behavior makes you feel uncomfortable.

[JoeCanada76]

About a missing condom maybe he was playing with himself and decided to use one by himself without having sex with anybody else.

As far as going too far counting condoms that is overly obsessive.

It would also be best to have all the issues and concerns in one thread so we could get the whole picture, by the sounds of things from what other people have said.

This person, is very disrespectful and you need to dump his a--. Like today.

[Fr_Chuck]

Or he took it just to mess with you, since if you are this obsessed you would be showing it in other ways,

If there are reasons you think he is cheating, to make you count condoms ( and man that is scarey you would do that)

And if he is cheating, why do you want to stay with him,?

[falon]

Yeah sorry I'm new to this thing I don't understand it fully lol but yes it's the same guy, and I have tried to to tell both of them and they get pissed off, and I guess me counting condoms is a little much but I didn't know what else to do, I have know other way of finding out if he is or not, and I don't want to find out a year later that I was right, and they were playing me all this time... im not obsessed I just want to know... and I stay with him because there are thing that hint that he mite be cheating but no physical evadance, that is why I counted the condoms, and I am deeply in love with him