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    Nov 27, 2009, 06:59 AM
    Why open up old wounds? You broke up for a reason. Move forward with your life, not back. Block him from your MSN/Facebook so that you can get over him and not add to the confusion.

    I'm not sure why he would constantly contact you as there are many possibilities. I have experiences some different scenarios that might explain some possibilities:

    After breaking up with my ex, she constantly contacted me in the beginning because she still had hope that we might one day get back together. So the hope is to try and stay in the other person's life in hopes that they might change their minds about the break up.

    After breaking up with another ex, I constantly contacted my ex after a break up, not because I wanted to get back (because I was the one who initiated the break up), but it was because I depended on her for so many things before that I had no one else to turn to after the break up. I was in a new city with no family and some new friends, but none that I could trust enough yet. She was here and she was pretty much the only person I could trust.

    Furthermore, after a break up, we are in emotional turmoil. We were in a relationship where we were dependent on another person. But the one day, that link is broken. It's really difficult to completely drift away from the other person overnight. Some people take longer to heal, some are quicker.

    In your case, you just happen to heal faster than he did. So that's why you find it odd that he's still contacting you. If you want to avoid so much confusion, then block him out of your life.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 02:11 PM

    Doesn't matter what he wants, or why he wants it. Just don't give it to him, whatever it is. That's best for you both, ending the emotion stirring speculations, and let him move on.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 03:12 PM
    I would stop all contact with him. It sort of sounds like he wants to keep in touch with you just in case the new gal doesn't work out. That's not good!

    Don't ever settle for being second best. If he can't be your one and only, then you need to get rid of him and find someone who wants you to be his #1!!-------------------------------------------------------------------------

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