[nice13]

I been with this girl on and off fore the past 2 years. She moved in with me and we started dating. I got stressed out with work and the fact I was going to ask her to marry me. I got into a depresion and stopped talking to her. I've done this before with other people but never with her. She thought I didn't love her anymore and she started dating someone else. She found out that I got her the ring and asked to see it. I gave it to her and told her I only want it back if she's 100% sure she didn't want to be with me. It's been about a week and she still has the ring but she's still with this guy. I told her I was sorry what happened and that I shold have told her but it's never been something I talked about. She lives with me and each day before I go to work I leve her a note saying how much I love her and hope she has a good day. I still do little things like that for her. I just want to ask if I should keep doing it or move on. I don't want to give up on her without a fight but when is it just too much?

[talaniman]

You have already crossed the line of what is too much, and should not only get your ring back, but get her out of your house.

Sorry guy, but unless you stand up for yourself, she will keep walking all over you, and using your feelings for her against you.

Man Up!! No more BS stories, or excuses, just get her out of your life.

[Mistique]

Yeah, not a good situation.

1) She lives with you;
2) She has your engagement ring;
3) She is still seeing this other guy.

First, get your ring back and if she wants to continue to date this other guy... she needs to move out and move on. She can't live with you (have all the benefits), have the ring and date someone else... sure you can have your cake and eat it but this girl is taking extras! The thing is how on and off is the relationship... because, you don't want an on and off marriage either?

I agree, you need to be assertive and take a direct approach. Don't let her walk on you... your not a door mat!