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    Nov 20, 2009, 09:16 PM
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    Ok I had a baby August 11th and about 3 almost 4 weeks ago I had a LEEP procedure done. Well the last time I had a baby I got extremely tight and every time I had sex with my husband it was painful. What do I do? I am scared to do anything because of the pain levels. Will it be worse this time?:confused:
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    Nov 20, 2009, 09:18 PM

    Have you discussed this with your doctor ? Are you using extra lube in these times, and of course having him be understanding and as gentle as possible.

    But the "fear" can cause it to hurt more since you will not be relaxing
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    Nov 20, 2009, 09:22 PM

    I haven't talked to my dr about it but yes even with a lot of lube its still painful. I don't go into it afraid until it is so painful that he can't even put it in.
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    Nov 20, 2009, 10:16 PM
    If it is just being tight, have you tried a slim vibrator to loosen up the muscles?

    Have you been cleared by your doctor, yet, for intercourse after the leep procedure? If not, then at your next appointment, talk to him/her. That in itself as well as being open and honest with your husband may help reduce the tension.

    You may have been wanting sex, but unconsciously were tensing up because you expected the baby to need you. If that is part of what happened before, then this time should be better because you have more experience being a mother and therefore are probably more relaxed than with your first child.

    Is there any way you could make a 'date' with your husband and have a friend or relative take the children for a couple of hours.

    I went through the same thing and once I got over worrying about time or possible interruptions, it got better. With my second child there was nowhere near the same amount of tension because I was a more relaxed mother.

    I hope you have a better experience this time.
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    Nov 21, 2009, 03:58 PM

    Uhm I am clear four weeks after the procedure but I don't go back until six months after I had the procedure. Uhm I was never tense worrying about my daughter. She is already 4 and it has always been like that. I always made the time when I knew we wouldn't be interrupted. Hmm I'm just lost

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