[emeryann62292]

What do you do when your best friends boyfriend has changed her so much you don't even know who she is? And how do you say something

[Gemini54]

Are you sure he's changed her?

Sometimes people choose to change, because they're with another person and they do lots of things together. Sometimes in relationship things are really intense and there is not much space for other people.

Is it that you're feeling left out and your GF is more interested in her BF than you?

Why do you feel that she's changed? Has she changed towards you?

[emeryann62292]

I have a boyfriend to and we try to include them in stuff we do or ill try to hang out with her but she won't because she's with him. He is always accusing her of cheating. She used to be the most outgoing person I knew and now she only talks to me at skool and won't even reply to my texts. I can't tell you if he's controlling her because I never get to see her. It's not just me, she's cut herself off from everyone! She doesn't care about her appearance she sits at home while he's out with his friends and he gets mad at her for absolutely no reason I don't know who to be mad at him or her! She has been my best friend; Attached at the hip since we were five this guy has been draggin her along for 3 yrs saying they were going to be together and finally does get with her then has sex with someone else within a month of them being together. I am starting to hate her for not dumping his stupid A**! She is gorgeous and I don't understand why she is settling for someone so wrong for her...

[Gemini54]

Perhaps then you need to go over some time when he's not there, and not likely to be, and have a talk with her.

I think you need to be really careful though not to criticize him - criticizing a friend's BF can really blow up in your face.

Start by telling her that you miss her, and you'd love to see her more. Ask her how things are and how things are going with the BF. Tell her that you're a bit worried because she doesn't go out as much any more and she used to be so outgoing.

Don't hate her. Be her friend and support her. It's really up to her to decide what she wants to do with him, and when she's going to do it. Just be there for her when it all falls to pieces.

[Jake2008]

You might be onto something there Emery, and Gemini has given you good advice.

If she has changed, and not for the better, but rather is being controlled by her boyfriend, try to let her know that you are there for her. Isolation is part of the package when one person has control over another.

[spoilsport]

Yes , agree with Gemini and Jake.
Also maybe if you get time to talk to her talk of things or do things you used to enjoy doing together, help her get back to herself..