[silverbullet444]

I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. I am very much in love with her and have never felt about any women I dated until her. I see a future with her. I can see myself marrying her and having kids with her. We have talked about the future a lot about her moving in with me after her lease runs out next spring. Things were going great.

About a month and a half ago we went back to her hometown which is a couple of states away. She had moved up here for a job and did not know anyone when she moved. We
Went to a wedding there and when we got back things had changed. Her personality changed and it seemed like there was a different girl in her place. Things got weird, she was not her happy self and she began to put a wall between us. Then about three weeks ago she broke up with saying she wanted to go back home because she misses her family. Her parents are not together anymore which had made things hard for her.

When she had gone home before she always was looking forward to coming back and had always said that she wanted to not go back. A couple of days after she broke up with me she called me and said that she was still confused about things. She said that she was not 100 percent sure what she wanted to do. She said she was torn because she still loved me and it had nothing to do with our relationship. We talked it over and she decided to stay and think about it again around the time her lease is up in the spring.

I am so glad that she decided against it. I am under the assumption that if she really wanted to go back she would have went back. We saw each other for the first time since we broke up last weekend and it went really good. I am somewhat confused because I don't know what the future brings and I really want to talk about the future with her. She is still not 100 percent sure she is going to stay here after the spring and it feels like she is holding back her affections. I really want her to open up and have things be the way they
Were before. I want to build a life with her and want her to stay.

I am taking a chance with this because I don't know what the future brings. Do you think that her breaking up with me just a quick gut reaction without thinking or should I be worried?

[jmjoseph]

There are no guarantees in love. But what you should do is let her know that you will be there for her, through thick and thin, good times and bad times. You will be her rock. No matter what she feels like, she can always count on you to be there. Tell her you want to be with her for the rest of your lives.

Tell her that her face is the last thing that you want to see before you "check out", when you are 100 years old.

Just remember to treat her like a lady, respect her, love her, and make her happy when she is down.

I am pulling for you.

Good luck.

[silverbullet444]

Looking for answers please help

[BlackVY]

My guess is the change scared her, and she missed her hometown, which is expected.

But to break up for that reason, and for her parents not being together, that's a little strange. I mean I'd expect something like this from someone younger, but not knowing your ages, I can't really comment.

I do think the 2 of you need to sit down and talk, discuss things, and get to the root cause of why she broke up with you. It is good she is back now, but the question is for how long.

I don't mean to put stress on you or your relationship, just saying be careful. Talk to her, you both need to know exactly what's going on to know that the next step is. Good luck

[silverbullet444]

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