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    AshieVengeance Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    May 29, 2009, 02:19 PM
    Best friend lied to my ex and said I still love him!

    Was wondering if anyone could help me

    Me and my ex were talking a couple months ago around the time I'd set up a new msn account for my close friends, and my best friend and cousin's msn was hacked, so I lent her the msn I'd created as I was using my current msn as well.

    Me and my ex were just talking about crap and my livejournal account which is my blog was hacked. I found out this was my best friend and cousin, and she'd quoted memories I'd about, regauding the previous relationship, tbh I'd her practically everything, as best friends would.

    I was aware she was talking to my ex, and she fessed up about the blog after I'd threatened her, she even showed me the blog, she left the account signed in when she went to the bathroom and I was able to delete it.

    I knew why my ex wasn't speaking to me, as he currently has a new girlfriend and he has said he feels awkward talking to me. but I also think this fake blog has something to do with it.,

    should I forgive my best friend?
    should I call my ex and make sure he knows my best friend faked it?

    I don't have any real feelings of that sort anymore, considering the relationship ended almost a year ago, but I did consider him a very good friend. I'm not sure where I stand with him anymore actually. and I think my best friend has ruined this. HELP PLEASE!!
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    Jun 1, 2009, 05:35 AM

    I don't think your obsessed. And I don't really bother about what kitty put. I'm sorry that I've posted this through the website but I just stumbled upon your page because you posted on something I have. The only problem I do have is how yours and kittys stories don't fit together. You both say different things have happened. So I don't believe either of you. And as for how we stand. I'm just living life per usual
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    Jun 1, 2009, 06:47 AM

    And you don't think I live my life the same way. By the way don't worry about the website thng.

    The main problem I have is kitty has always been jealous of me, she does her best to make me look like a liar. I just don't know what to do about her. She's family but she's a 2faced .
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    Jun 1, 2009, 09:11 AM

    First, get off line and talk to people in person.

    Tell your friend that you meant to help her by giving her your page, but that you will never do that again because she breached your trust by abusing the site.

    Let her know that you will not accept anyone impersonating themselves as you. You can understand if she meant to be funny, but it was not funny to you and she cannot do it again.

    Offer your forgiveness if she accepts responsibility and agrees not to do that to you again. If she's defensive or rude about it, just let the friendship to end. Don't indulge the drama, don't say too much - just let it fade and move on to other friends. And don't discuss it with other people - one rule you need to learn is that you keep your relationships with other people to yourself, and don't drag all the drama and opinions and rumors into it by telling everything to everyone.

    As for your former boyfriend, stop by his house or call him (not text, actual talking) and let him know in a mature way, "I apologize - one of my friends got access to my site and posted things, as me, that I do not feel and did not want said. I don't want you or your girlfriend to think I'm trying to get back together with you - I'd like us to be friends at some point, and recognize it's probably too soon for that. Anyway, I didn't say those thing, and wanted to apologize to you for the fact that they were posted on my site. I'm taking the site down."

    Moving forward, never give anyone access to any site that is yours, to your email, your passwords. You will find that the same petty stupidity is practiced by some adults, and you don't want it done under your name. One lady posed as a guy to harass her daughter's former best friend and the girl committed suicide over what this pretend guy supposedly said on line. The lady is going to jail for it now...

    In offices, I've heard of people sending emails under other people's names to sabotage those people and get them fired. So, only you get to be you.

    Take care!
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    Nov 14, 2009, 07:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by dontknownuthin View Post
    First, get off line and talk to people in person.

    Tell your friend that you meant to help her by giving her your page, but that you will never do that again because she breached your trust by abusing the site.

    Let her know that you will not accept anyone impersonating themselves as you. You can understand if she meant to be funny, but it was not funny to you and she cannot do it again.

    Offer your forgiveness if she accepts responsibility and agrees not to do that to you again. If she's defensive or rude about it, just let the friendship to end. Don't indulge the drama, don't say too much - just let it fade and move on to other friends. And don't discuss it with other people - one rule you need to learn is that you keep your relationships with other people to yourself, and don't drag all the drama and opinions and rumors into it by telling everything to everyone.

    As for your former boyfriend, stop by his house or call him (not text, actual talking) and let him know in a mature way, "I apologize - one of my friends got access to my site and posted things, as me, that I do not feel and did not want said. I don't want you or your girlfriend to think I'm trying to get back together with you - I'd like us to be friends at some point, and recognize it's probably too soon for that. Anyway, I didn't say those thing, and wanted to apologize to you for the fact that they were posted on my site. I'm taking the site down."

    Moving forward, never give anyone access to any site that is yours, to your email, your passwords. You will find that the same petty stupidity is practiced by some adults, and you don't want it done under your name. One lady posed as a guy to harass her daughter's former best friend and the girl committed suicide over what this pretend guy suposedly said on line. The lady is going to jail for it now...

    In offices, I've heard of people sending emails under other people's names to sabotage those people and get them fired. So, only you get to be you.

    Take care!
    Tomdelmundo

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