[crazygirl30]

I met my partner on the internet last January and as crazy as it sounds we fell for each other very fast, amonth and half ago he moved in with me and everything has been great between us except are sex life, he never seems to want sex at all, its making me feel so unattractive, I've stopped even touching him in anyway because I can tell he thinks even if I hug him I'm going to turn it into sex, what worrys me more is when I lost my sex drive in a past relationship it was because I didn't really want to be in that relationship anymore, I've talked to him and he says its just the medication he's on, makes him not be able to completely keep a erection and it makes him feel bad, but I'm just not sure, its making me so insecure and he's even on the computer till 2,3,4 sometimes in the morning playing online games, I feel so bad lying in bed knowing he could be chatting to anyone and never wants to touch me,but I also know he loves playing them and does when I'm watching to, even though deep down I completely trust him, its just how bad being rejected has made me feel. Apart from the sex are relationship is really good he is so loving, he only has to walk past me and he will play with my hair, give me a kiss, he's good with my two kids, does things in the house, I just don't know what to do to make me stop feeling like this, any advice would be great :)

[redhed35]

Could I just sum up,you met a man online,six weeks later he's living in your house with your two children,the problem your having is he does not want to have sex with you...

Your relationship has moved very fast,the problem when this happens is you don't really get to know the person,their past,how they behave in certain situations,what type of person they are,do they kick puppies,all that kind of stuff is important to know,before you start the relationship...

I'm going to try and address your problem,just the problem that you posted...

My advice is to talk to him again,tell him how much its hurts you and that it is affecting your confidence and making you feel unattractive,be open,honest and frank.

One other suggestion I would like to make is,you never really dated,you met and moved in together... perhaps a date night?

Or he move out and start to get to know each other slowly?

[Catsmine]

Red, it looks more like sixmonths later when he moved in, which is still way too soon.

crazygirl30, the idea of talking is a good one. ED from meds is common, but that shouldn't mean you can't have a sex life. Many spouses of paraplegics are quite happy with theirs.