[Caolous]

Okay, now I am just feeling weird. I don't think anyone would ever like me. I mean my looks really aren't that good, and even if I try to have a good personality, no one really notices it.

What should I do? I mean, I know guys shouldn't like girl for looks, but that's what usually does happen. Also, I think I like this guy now, but he likes my best friend.

[redhed35]

Yes,its true that boys and men like good looks,and its also true that they like personilities... girls and women too!

Its also true that people are attracted to happy people.

Take another look at yourself,if you feel bad on the inside that's the reflection you see in the mirror,if you feel good,the same applies.

So,OK,he likes your friend,but there are lots of guys out there,be friendly,smile and enjoy your time with your friends,someone will notices you,and maybe think,wow she looks really happy,I wonder what she's like!.

[Caolous]

Oh! I see! Thanks, so basically, I really need more self confidence and be positive!

[amicon]

Is that one of the guys from your other thread? As for looks I think most people are attracted to an outgoing friendly personality even if looks matter to some extent.

[Caolous]

U huh, yes. I see. Thanks.

[paxe]

You can always work on it, make up, high heels, dress well, get a killer body... Looks are so subjective and can be changed with work.

[Cat1864]

How old are you?

[Caolous]

16.

[Cat1864]

You still have a lot of growing and changing to do. Taking care of yourself and developing a good self-image will do more for you in the long term than any cosmetic changes (high-heels, make-up, etc.) ever will.

Exercise, proper nutrition, good skin and hair care, and a positive outlook can do amazing things to boost how you feel about you and how others respond to you.

I know it sounds like a parental response and isn't a quick fix. However, you haven't finished changing from a child into a woman and a lot of those changes will happen in the next couple of years. Take this time to develop the inner person. Find out what type of hobbies, sports, careers, etc. you are interested in. Try to be careful about wearing high-heels for too long or too often (they can over time do damage to legs and feet) or too much make-up or over-processing your hair.

Don't worry about getting into a boyfriend-type relationship. Hanging out and being friends is more important to developing social skills and finding out what you like in a guy or what characteristics you can't stand. There is no rush to get into a relationship no matter what the media or peer-pressure may say. Take your time. You still have a lot of it ahead of you.