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    Nov 5, 2009, 11:29 AM
    Feeling Unimportant
    My boyfriend and I have been together now for about 3 years, and recently I've noticed a change in him.

    I feel he lacks interest in me as he once did, and if I don't initiate intimacy... there isn't any.

    He says he has a lot on his mind and works too much, but I find that as a lame excuse. I work hard and have a lot on my mind as well, but I make time for him... because I WANT TO.

    Im just so confused, because I've not changed.

    I'm really concerned about it, and feel that if something doesn't change in the dynamic of our relationship... (right now I don't feel like a girlfriend)... I'll have to move on.

    I love him very much, and don't want to loose him... but, if he can't see that he needs to pay more attention to me, and spend time with me... then maybe we should move on.

    What can I do? How can I relate my feelings to him that he can understand?

    I'm not good at expressing myself or asking for what I want. Trust me, Im not a needy or clingy female. I give him space, and don't ask much.

    Confused. Hurt.
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    Nov 5, 2009, 11:38 AM
    I suggest you sit down with him and calmly tell him how you feel and share your worries. If there is no communication there is no real relationship.

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