[pupunpaul]

Hi,
On April 2007 I meet her first time at College but that time she had just fall in love with some one else and our relationship was like brother & sister, and we help each other every moment in study and other matters , she feel comfortable with me in study, but her boy friend always doubt her with me and her boy friend always abuse her very badly and question about her character and due that she used to cry in front of me and I also told her several time that you leave me and stay happy with her but she can't leave me and gradually her boy friend harass her mentally and she become always upset and believe I had no feeling for her but I can't see her upset and one day there was break up with her boy friend on mid of 2008, that time she was too upset and exam was near, so I have no option & due to that she went depression and also admitted in hospital two times. So I just decided to make a drama and told her she is not alone I will always with her and I love her, that time she was not make any remarks but gradually she start studying and happy , but after exam I told her it was drama I just want to see her happy that why I told her I love you, but she told she can't leave without me , day by day we become very close but she can't forget her past totally, now she hear that her past boy friend is in love with some one else and due to that now she become very upset and she told me that she love her till today and she can't love any one else but now I love her too much and its very hard to hear from her that she still love him, I know she respect me enough but its very hard to accept that she still make contact her past and can't forget him and that boy also don’t know what want from her….he told her that he love some one else and he also told her that he still can't forget her. Trust me she is very good and innocent girl, she told me what ever she talked with her past ,and she also trust every one so quickly and very helpful girl but the only problem is that she can't forget her past love but I know she will never be happy with him as that boy has very proud and already abuse her very badly…….
Now tell me what should I do? Help me other wise my life end…………………………

[emopunk7]

A tough read. Listen up little man... She loves somebody else so you have to move on and not think about her. You can find someone else. If she doesn't love you then there is nothing you can do. Your life is not going to end and when you tell me that you will let her go and find someone else, I will call you big boy!

[I wish]

What she needs is time to get over her past relationship. Some people take longer to recover.

What you should do is distance yourself from her. I know that you're close friends and you'll probably say that you don't want to loose a friendship, but rigiht now, you have strong feelings for her, so every time you talk to her, you will over-analyze everything she says and twist it into a way to think that she might have feelnigs for you one day.

Therefore, you need to stay away from her so that she can heal from her break up and for you to gain some perspective about your feelings for you.

Once she's recovered and once you've calmed down your feelings, then both of you will be more objective about a possible relationship.

[talaniman]

She needs time, and space to heal, and get her act together, and a friend, NOT a boyfriend.

If you can't handle that, back away and don't make a bad situation worse with your own feelings. She can barely cope with her own.