[kateklinger]

So just found out I'm pregnant with my 2nd son, I'm divorced (for good reasons). I'm 4 weeks and 6 days. The baby's father, my boyfriend says he doesn't want to keep it, he doesn't want kids right now, blah-blah-blah. He changes his mind everyday about it. He's excited about it, then he just can't stand the thought of it. It's driving me crazy! We really do have a good relationship but this is a BIG deal, I don't want to go through alone this AGAIN! OMG the thought kills me! Anyone have any advice like maybe things to say or do to put my boyfriend at ease a little more. Thanks so much!

Kate

[redhed35]

Talking about having a baby and actually having the baby are two opposite sides of the spectra.. the excitement you feel,and responsibility,the high again looking at the scan,and again the feelings can I really do this...

I guess for him it's the same... give him time to let the pregnancy sink in.. involve him as much as possible,get him to open up about his own childhood,what was his father like,if its bad,reasure him that he will be a good a dad,if its good,reasure him that he had a good role model and he will be fine... your a team,and in this together!

[talaniman]

It will take a lot longer for him to get his head wrapped around the fact he is going to be a dad, whether he likes it, or not. Stand back, and let him vent, and rant, and rave.

Reality will set in. Isn't that the first test of manhood? What a guy does about his actions? Give him space, and don't freak out.