[surferforlife]

All threads merged
OKay me and my girlfriend have been together for 1 year and a few months now when we first met everything was sogood and then after our 1 year together everything went crazy we started to fight so much almost everyday. I always did everything to try to fix things. And our big problem is that we can't even seeeachother because she lives in Texas and I live in California see before she wouldn't care at all because she loved me and believed me when I told her I loved her and now latley she doubts me so much and says I don't love her when I'm always telling her how much I love her and want to be with her forever and I cnt wait till we finally meet but she's always doubting me and she's very very deeply in love with me but I think that she's still trying to push me away I don't know what to do!

[surferforlife]

That didn't help.

[talaniman]

I wonder how long you can tell someone you want to be with them forever and not make the moves to make the actions match the words?

Ain't no surfing in Texas, so get some cowboy boots, and head 'em up, move 'em out.

Just curious when you plan to see her again?

[none12345]

I don't think its possible to love someone if you have never met them before. At first I believed it was possible but it just ended terribly.

[jordyadele]

Relationships are hard work. It doesn't matter how much you love each other, it takes effort! Love is a choice. Although it comes naturally at first, at some point and time you have to CHOOSE to love someone.
Even if you are fighting everyday you can't let that dictate your entire relationship. It's what you learn about the other person through disagreements that makes your relationship stronger.
Maybe she is confused. Maybe the first "swept off your feet in love" feeling has gone away and she's starting to realize that some things you do irritate her. Maybe some things you say make her feel bad. Maybe she just doesn't think she is strong enough anymore for a long distance relationship. Whatever it is, it's her decision to overcome it and CHOOSE to love you no matter what. It's time for her to tell the truth about what it is she's feeling. If she can't do that, then it's not worth pursuing. It's not "marriage material."
What have you done to fix things besides telling her "i love you and i want to be with you forever"?

[surferforlife]

I have tried to talk to her about this and I explain to her how much I love her and I don't care if I can't see her I have her and that's the important thing.. she says she believes me but she acts likee she doesn't soemtimes... and thank you you all helpd.

[surferforlife]

Threads merged again

Now my girlfriend of 1 year and 4 months has been acting really weird.. she kept bugging me about that she didn't believe me when I told her I loved her and wanted to talk to her and now that she has started believing me I really do she has been acting so blah she doesn't act like she wants to talk to me anymore before when we would talk it was alwayyss JESSE :] and noww she's just oh hi . And it buggs mee because she hasn't been acting like herself anymore she doesn't seem like she loves me either if I don't sayy I love you she won't even mention it anymore she always makes the awkard silence and if I talk to her about this she'll be like well sorry or I do want to talk to you and if I ask is something wrong she'll just say no.. this has been really bugging me =[ I don't know what to doo help mme .

[I wish]

Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread so that we can follow your story.

Long distance is extremely difficult if you don't plan on seeing each other. Nor matter how much talking you try to do, someone has to make a move. You need to see each other or else this relationship can't survive.

[jaime90]

Generally speaking, women come with an automatic need for reassurance. That's why not only does she ask "do you REALLY love me?" Everyday, she asks it once at breakfast, lunch, dinner, and before bed. She NEEDS you to reassure her of your love, and not just that- she needs you to SHOW her your love, especially when it is WITHOUT sexual intentions. That could mean going out of your way to give her a phone call, or a text 'good morning!' it could mean coming up with your own inside jokes, or sending her a love letter. (I've done long-distance relationship for over a year before, it can work, we're now engaged.) If she feels like your "spark" is starting to fizzle out, try to rekindle it, and encourage her to try too. Become 'students' of each other, learning and observing your partner as much as possible. Visit each other more often, be honest with each other. If you get in a fight, it is very important to, again, reassure her of your love. Tell her that you're upset, and you need time to think, but your relationship is O.K. Women often take the words "I need space" or "I need a break" as, "You don't love me! You don't want to be around me!" So make sure you're consistently reassuring her. If you are doing that consistently and she is doubting you, do something drastic, do something for her where she cannot doubt your love! The best thing I can think of now is, show up unexpectedly! Show her you love her, don't just say it. Words can talk, but actions sing.

[surferforlife]

I don't know what to do I invaded my gf's privacy and found something's in her email and now she knows so she dumped me.. what should I doo ?

[Fr_Chuck]

Learn not to do that again when you get a new girlfriend

[redhed35]

There's not too much you can do,either you were being nosey or something made you mistrust her.

Once the trust is broken in a relationship its quite difficult to get back.

Say your sorry,and leave her alone,learn from this!

[justcurious55]

I'm with chuck on this one. Snooping through things without permission, bad move. All you can do is learn from it.

[amicon]

Is this the girl from your previous threads? I think you should consider this over. Personally Id be very annoyed if my boyfriend went through my email etc.
Why snoop?

[surferforlife]

But see I knew she was hiding something and yea it's the same girl and when I read the email she was hiding somethingshe wanted to talk to the guy she was in love with before and she knew she had a chance with him itslike if something happened to us she can just go to him right away like I didnteven matter :l n idkk.. I guessi just did the wrong thing...

[justcurious55]

Good catch amicon.

Surfer, it's over. You couldn't trust her. Now she won't be able to trust you. Sounds like it's for the best.

[surferforlife]

:l your all right thank you I just didn't wantt it to end this way we worked for1 year n then its all gone..

[amicon]

Sorry for your loss-have you read the stickies at the top of the relationship page? Lots of good advice after a breakup.

[surferforlife]

alriteee this is the girl from my last questions we got back together and noww well its realllllllllllllllly badd really really bad :l she acted like she wanted me more when we weren't together and know that we are she just acts like she doesn't care at all and this is hurting me so much but its nothing compared to how I have hurt her =[ but I love her so much and she still doesn't believe me a few days ago it was our annii and she didn't even say anythng back to me I wrote her a song and she didn't even say anything made me feel so bad after all my hard work she didn't even say a thank you or anything her best friend liked it more than she even did -_- and now we haven't even talked normaly for 3 days and her best friend was like prove to her you love her and I havetried so many things I really have but she never trusts me anymore.. annd idkk.. what I should do noww do I leave her or stay with her ? But I love her so muucchhh its killng me already.
:(

[slapshot_oi]

Dude, you're either 11 or English isn't your first language, I'm having the worst time trying to make sense of what you're saying.

Quit whining and reading her e-mail. You live and your girlfriend live in different states; it can't work, accept it.