[reasonswhy13]

One again, thank you artlady. Also, I'm not sure how to report it to family services. And what would happen if I did?

[justcurious55]

I'm not saying that it's not the best option for you. I just believe it's best to look at all other options before making such a decision. I wanted to be emancipated when I was about your age too. But then I looked into it and looked into my other options and for me, it was best to have my aunt and uncle petition for guardianship of me (thankfully they were willing to).

That's good that people can vouch for you. Because getting out of there definitely seems to be best for you here. An abusive situation is never healthy. It's helpful to have proof because without proof it's hard to show the court why it's best for you to be removed from your parent's care. I believe you because, well, you have no reason to lie here. But how does the court know that you're being abused and you're not just some 16 year old that doesn't want to live by her parent's rules? I highly doubt your parents will go into court and go "oh yeah, we abuse her all the time!" and the judge will go "ok. let's emancipate you." it just doesn't work that way.

Next time they leave marks, take pictures. Keep them someplace safe so that if you need them later for court, you have them.

Is there a reason you haven't called the police yet? For me, it was because I was scared. I didn't call the police at first because I was terrified that they wouldn't do anything and I would just be beaten worse after they left. But eventually, the fear was overcome by me getting sick and tired or being knocked around. That and seeing how my younger siblings reacted to me being hit. Abuse typically does trickle down. Your younger siblings may not be being abused now, but they probably will be later. And the abuse towards you is probably negatively affecting them now as well.

[artlady]

one again, thank you artlady. also, im not sure how to report it to family services. and what would happen if i did?

They would come into your home and do an investigation.
Talking to the family members and try to see if your claim is real.
They go on the assumption that it is but there is always skepticism.
They might think you are just an unhappy teen.
If they decide that there has been abuse and you tell them you have a place to stay and your parents are agreeable,then you take it from there.

[artlady]

i'm not saying that it's not the best option for you. i just believe it's best to look at all other options before making such a decision. i wanted to be emancipated when i was about your age too. but then i looked into it and looked into my other options and for me, it was best to have my aunt and uncle petition for guardianship of me (thankfully they were willing to).

that's good that people can vouch for you. because getting out of there definitely seems to be best for you here. an abusive situation is never healthy. it's helpful to have proof because without proof it's hard to show the court why it's best for you to be removed from your parent's care. i believe you because, well, you have no reason to lie here. but how does the court know that you're being abused and you're not just some 16 year old that doesn't want to live by her parent's rules? i highly doubt your parents will go into court and go "oh yeah, we abuse her all the time!" and the judge will go "ok. let's emancipate you." it just doesn't work that way.

next time they leave marks, take pictures. keep them someplace safe so that if you need them later for court, you have them.

is there a reason you haven't called the police yet? for me, it was because i was scared. i didn't call the police at first because i was terrified that they wouldn't do anything and i would just be beaten worse after they left. but eventually, the fear was overcome by me getting sick and tired or being knocked around. that and seeing how my younger siblings reacted to me being hit. abuse typically does trickle down. your younger siblings may not be being abused now, but they probably will be later. and the abuse towards you is probably negatively affecting them now as well.

Out of greenies hon!
So sorry you had to go through that my dear,no kid deserves that !

[reasonswhy13]

The whole idea of callign the police terrifies me, just like you said. Unfortunately, I don't have any relatives to take care of me, and if my parents found out, there may be a chance that they might kill me. They are very controlling

[justcurious55]

I agree. No kid should eve have to go through what I went through. So I'm all for emancipation and guardianships. But I have to remind myself that it's not the best option for everyone so I like to ask lots of questions before encouraging it. I guess I try to make sure I'm not too biased.

[artlady]

I think you should speak to a school counselor and or an adult you can trust who knows you and your family.

[artlady]

i agree. no kid should eve have to go through what i went through. so i'm all for emancipation and guardianships. but i have to remind myself that it's not the best option for everyone so i like to ask lots of questions before encouraging it. i guess i try to make sure i'm not too biased.

Having been there I think you have a better insight so I am trusting your judgment and I do not see a bias :)

[justcurious55]

OK. Good. I don't want to be biased.

I did learn from my experience that it is very helpful to have professionals who can vouch for you. I was seeing a personal counselor before we started the guardianship process. I'd had sessions with my mom too. Her letter to the court was really important. The court ordered counseling for me with both of my parents. The hope was that we could work things out there. It ended with my father yelling that my brother and I were liars and storming out slamming the door so hard it's a wonder nothing broke. That counselor's letter was also very important. Same with the person they sent out from family services. She had to right up a report and give her opinion what she believed was in the best interest of me (well, and my brother). It was a long process. But my aunt and uncle had temporary guardianship before the permanent was established. So we were able to stay there with them. Hopefully you won't have to stay with your parents while it's going on. But that's why family services are important. If you're being abused, they can help get you out of there quickly.

[sparky16]

I called the police and I'm trying to be emancipated .
They did nothing but laughed in my face so don't call the police they won't help.