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    MamaLette Posts: 22, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:21 PM
    My Boyfriend and I are prusuing him adopting my daughter.
    I was told to just go to the supreme court house in my town and in family court there are papers I need to get to have my boyfriend of 8 months is going to adopt my 10 month old daughter. Her biologic father wants nothing to do with her. Her ask me to have my boyfriend to adopt her. (in not a nice way at all):( Is everything just that easy? Can we just get paperwork he signs his writes over and my boyfriend can take them over? Im not sure exactly what I'm getting myself into. Just looking for advice. Or what to expect and what I need to do. Thanks.:)
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:24 PM

    First of all, whoever told you this is wrong. You can't just have your boyfriend adopt your baby. You two have to be married and then you petition the court for the adoption. The daddy obviously does not want to pay child support for his own child. You need to look into having the father pay child support until you and your boyfriend get married, live together as man and wife for at least a year and then approach the court about adoption. In the meantime, don't waste your time at the courthouse as it's not going to happen as whoever told you is wrong.
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:25 PM

    Um, no. it's not that simple. You have to be married first off for your boyfriend to adopt her. And then you will have to go through the adoption process which I don't know the details of but from everyone on this site who has been through on is quite complicated and always recommended to be done with a lawyer.

    Are you and your boyfriend ready for marriage?
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:28 PM
    I had no idea. And yes we plan on getting married but I didn't know there was a time limit? We have to be married for a year? Ugh. The bio father does pay child support. He doesn't want to take car of her.
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:29 PM

    He doesn't see her. Never has. I don't know what to do I just need to tie things off with him so we have no reason to even think about each other. I don't know what to do but this seems like its going to be a process.
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:34 PM

    Yes, it is definitely a process. Probably a good thing you're starting research now.

    That's too bad he doesn't see her. But at least it sounds like she has your boyfriend there as a good father figure. Best of luck. I'm sure more members will be by to give more advice.
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:51 PM

    Thank you :)
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    Oct 25, 2009, 04:56 PM

    First, please pay more attention to posting guidelines. At the top of the Adoption forum (where this was moved from) is a Read First sticky that directs questions of a legal nature to this forum.

    Most states do require that an adoptive couple be married for a period before approving the adoption. But it is HIGHLY recommended that you have a family law attorney prepare the adoption petition. So what you SHOULD do now is shop around for an attorney. Many will offer a free consultation. They will tell you what you have to do to pr3epare and how much it will cost so you can start saving.
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    Oct 25, 2009, 05:16 PM

    There are some states that do not require you to be married, but most do ( in the US) but all will require it to be a long term relationship.
    And in all cases the bio father will have to sign over his rights, and there will be a court hearing.
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