[gothpyro]

Okay well here it goes. In my senior year of high school I met this guyy who I really liked. We were together for quite sometime and a couple of months ago we broke up. Well I met another guy who I seemed to like but really he's just a rebound guy. Don't get me wrong I do like him but not like that anymore.I can't stop thinking about my ex. I really cared about him. I wonder what he is doing, how his job is going, how his parents are and his little sister is. We were making plans for the furture and I honestly don't know what happened. We were always happy, never a dull monment. We liked the same things, except cars. Hes ford, I'm chevy. But that was the only thing that we disagreed on. We always had fun. The guy that I'm with now basically drags me down. He lives in a run down trailer with a room mate and the room matesrwo kids. He makes 7.50 and hour at a crappy job. He doesn't have a license or a car. He basically depends on me to drive him everywhere. I think the only reason why I am with him is because he has three cats. And if he doesn't have food and litter for them I feel bad. And another reason is becausehe tells me all the time that he has been hurt so badly in the past and I don't want to hurt anyone. I just don't know what to do. I still have very strong feelings for my ex and I really want him back. But I am scared to call him. Please some body help me because I'm totally lost in this situation. :confused: :(

[valinors_sorrow]

Please do both of you a favor and stop seeing the one you feel sorry for? Ugh! Forgive me for being harsh but that is simply selfish and immature using him like that. Would you like that done to you? I bet not. Focus on yourself for a while. Really. Like a career, or education, or girlfriends, hobbies, etc. As for your ex-- if you don't understand why you broke up then its seems pretty unlikely you'll be getting back together. Your post indicates that you need to do a bit of growing on your own to where you can better understand how people work.

[ordinaryguy]

Too late. You're already hurting the one you have now. It was a mistake to get involved with him at all, and continuing a mistake doesn't fix it. As for getting your ex back, it may happen if you focus on your own growth, learn some lessons and grow up a little. Or if you do that, you may find you don't want him back.