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velovero · Oct 17, 2009, 10:01 PM

Hey I'm andre and I've just signed up to this site I'm 30 years old living in london and I've never had a girlfreind or even been asked out on a date before I don't have any friends either.I have tried everything from nightclubs to speed dating and internet dating but nothing seems to work sometimes when I'm on my own and my parents are asleep I feel like crying and I sometimes do cry it makes me feel really depressed that I can't find a geniune girl that will just like and love me and just want to get to know me.as I really would love a girl that can be my friend as well as my girlfreind some one who can take to dinner and just hang out with.

If anyone can offer me advice or help me out I would be very gratefull.

Fr_Chuck · Oct 17, 2009, 10:06 PM

Let me see, you are 30,
1. move out of mom and dads
2. and start asking girls that you meet daily out,
3. after this long perhaps some counseling to see if there are issues in your life

velovero · Oct 17, 2009, 10:08 PM

Thanks for the help chuck its much apreciated.

Clough · Oct 17, 2009, 10:56 PM

Hi, Andre!

Are you presently working? Also, what sort of education, job experience, skills and interests do you have, please?

The interests part is especially important.

Thanks!

velovero · Oct 17, 2009, 11:07 PM

Hi clough yes I'm presently working as a care assistant for disabled kids and I attended high school,college and university as well and got a degree in heathcare.In my spare time I like listening to all types of music, going out dancing,too the cinema and going shopping too.

Clough · Oct 17, 2009, 11:50 PM

Hi again, velovero!

It looks like you've achieved some major accomplishments in your life! Some of the things that you've listed as liking to do could be considered to be social activities with others. Are they for you?

Thanks!

amicon · Oct 18, 2009, 12:26 AM

Is there a nice local pub near you?
That could be a way of meeting new friends .

redhed35 · Oct 18, 2009, 12:53 AM

How do you approach women?

Are you confident?

Have you ever asked anyone out?

Getting involved in an activity will let people (women) get to know you and perhaps more willing to accept a date.

Move out of your parents home,if possible.

Look at your personal style,is it outdated?

Be confident,women, like men can give off an air of desperate and needy,which can be very unappealing.

talaniman · Oct 18, 2009, 06:58 AM

Females also like guys who are happy with themselves and their life. Are you? (besides just being alone)

I've always found that a fun loving person attracts other fun loving people to them, so do things where there are groups of fun loving people.

The more options the better. Use Google to find clubs, and groups, in your area.

Social functions are good, I really don't like bars or pubs, but they do have special parties and social gatherings as well as the usual meat market.

You don't need a girl friend to have fun with the girls. That's a myth.

paxe · Oct 18, 2009, 07:58 AM

You're taking it the wrong way, instead of wanting to meet girls to go out with, you need to go out and meet people, that mean guys, girls etc...

You need to expand your social environment first and then you will have a greater chance of meeting a lovely lady. Start by being more energetic and make the first approach to people with a big smile, you will see a tremendous difference.

Clough · Oct 18, 2009, 08:56 PM

Hi again, velovero!

So, what do you think of the advice that you've been given thus far on this thread, please?

You can respond to one thing at a time. It's not a problem.

I really do think though, that more discovery is needed concerning what you do, how you do it and also why you do it, before giving you the best advice here.

Thanks!