[i_am_jebizz]

Basically just like the title says, but let me further the detail. Me and my ex were basically best friends we talked every minute of the day and he we were possesive over each other, I didn't want him with another girl and vice versa,we had strong feelings for each other, eventually he asked me out and we dated for 4 months, very much in love wit each other, until one day we got into a argument that was blown out of preportion and he dumped me. Later I got to find out that the whole time he had another girlfriend (which he had way before I met him) and was still with her, but they were I guess you can say not talking, cause we literally talked 24/7. Finding this out devastated me, we talked about our future, kids, careers and everything. What hurt most is he said he was going to leave his "real" girlfriend that day we fought to be with me cause he was out of love with her and wanted me, but since we fought he went back to her.
Its been 2 months and I still think about him and miss him. He sends me mixed signals so I don't know how he feels.

Now to get to the point, his birthdays in a month and I want to send him a birthday card instead of just a usual text, would it be a smart idea or should I just stick to text?

Please give me your advice
-thanks

[artlady]

No,do not send him a card and if you ever want to have a life that is about your happiness ,stop texting him as well.

He is playing you and you are just a backup plan.
Stringing you along as plan B in case his GF who he always had does not work out.

It is most likely doing his ego a world of good to know you would be there if he wanted you,even though he treated you lousy.

A cheat and a liar is not a good catch.

Honor yourself and never allow anyone to play you for a fool.

[amicon]

Why stay in contact with a twotiming jerk? You deserve much better.

[i_am_jebizz]

Artlady: thanks for the response, I think that's what I need to hear, the cold truth.

Amicon: and I know I shouldn't cause he played me bad, but I really loved the guy, even he said he didn't deserve me, which was one of the reasons he also dumped me cause he didn't deserve a girl like me, and I now understand what he meant by that, but its hard to get over and I still care for him :/

[amicon]

All breakups are tough and take some time to get over.
You ll heal from this and move on to have happier relationships in the future.
It was a learning experience and now you know what you don't need in your life.

[talaniman]

Honoring a liar, and a cheater, makes no sense. Further, best friends don't treat each other like he treated you. To add, Loving a loser is no excuse for continuing to be his fool, you have already done that.

[I wish]

The mixed signals that you are getting is him keeping you around as his backup plan. If it doesn't work out with his girlfriend, he can always come running back to you because he knows that you're waiting around for me.

If he actually does come back, who knows when he will wander off again to find a third girl. Is that what you want? To be his safety net?

Don't bother sending that card, furthermore, stop talking to him. It's only going to add to the confusion and give you false hope.

[i_am_jebizz]

Yeah I see everything you guys are saying, and it really helped a lot, it also helped me get over him, and realize that he is not worth wasting anymore thought on, thank you guys