[fallen23]

I started seeing my ex again we broke up after a year and a half of living together. We had several small problems that ended up with us spliting up. I moved out and had no contact. After four days of me leaving my ex began calling me, telling me he was still in love and appolagizing. After two weeks of being separated we talked and agreed to try dating again, and fixing all of our problems. We agread to be honest and I told him that I almost had sex during the time we split up but I couldn't, he confesed he slept with one of his friends in our house and that he did it more then once. It turns out that he did this at the same time he was calling me and telling me he loved me. If we are starting over how and should I let this go. Why is it bothering me so much

[CaptainRich]

If he's been "busy" while trying to get back together with you...
What's in this for you?
Seriously...

[I wish]

Harshness warning

How naïve can you be? Do you seriously still think he loves you when he told you that he loves you while having sex with someone else at the same time? How can you ever believe or trust anything that he says anymore?

You did the right thing in the first place by breaking up. Don't go backwards now.

[britEl]

I would just get over HIM, and kick him to the curb, not only is that disrespectful to YOU, but imagine what the chick was thinking while he was phoning you telling you he loved you, that is unacceptable. How can someone say I love you and mean it, while they are having sex with another person simultaneously, that my friend is BULL and I would continue with the NO CONTACT because he sounds like a dirtbag.

[Jake2008]

When he was having sex with women, you were both separated from each other. And you can't fault him for doing what you asked, and that was to be honest.

The fact that he was wooing you over the phone while boinking chicks at the same time, shows more to his character and level of sincerity.

IF there is a chance that he can be faithful, and you can be faithful, within the relationship you are trying to rebuild, then I say if you love him, and he loves you, then try. What's the harm in trying.

If you were married, my answer would be different, but you were both living separate lives and free to do as you chose, no ties, no relationship.

It would be, in my opinion, at least an option to see if you can continue to work things out.

[123skyscraper]

Uh... NO. he told you he loves you while banging the other chick? Boy she must have been easy. That is just wrong on every level! What makes you think he won't call some girl up while he's banging you? How would you feel in the other girl's position? I am quite naïve like you, but come on don't be stupid. Don't believe anything he says. Some guys will say/do anything to make you feel better, but look at what is in their hearts to see if they really love you. That's how players roll!

[jaime90]

You have every right to be bothered by it- he slept with another girl and told you that he loved you.Clearly he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear so that you will be drawn into a relationship with him again. If I were you- don't trust him as far as you can throw him.