[piecemissing6]

All right so this has been on going between me and my ex... And hopefully this will be my last post about her. She broke up Witt me for someother guy and someother reasons.. And it's been about a month... For awhile I was bad, kept talking to her etc. But finally I did nc... And For a week there was nothing.. But now she has been talking to me like I'm her boyfriend again almost... So I told her flat out, stop playing this game, either you pick me, or this other kid... And she tells me she knows were meant to be together but not right now, that she has feelings for the other guy,(And she's not ready to leave him yet,) but not like she did when we were going out. She says she needs
More time to realize that she misses me ?(which is complete bs, time doesn't increase feelings if your not together it reduces them.. I think so anyway)What does she want from me? She wants to be friends... But while she's with that other loser, I have no interest in talking to her. I want to tell her either you pick me and you have me, or you don't, and I don't ever see you again.. But I know that won't fix things. Iknow I just got to nc it, but why does she insist on giving me this hope? Is she being genuine or just afraid to let me go? Thanks. And for repeat posters on my situation thanks for the patience.

[jaime90]

Well, props to you for telling her your feelings straight-up, but you asked her the wrong question. If she's playing with another guy's emotions and talking to you at the same time, saying she's not ready to leave him yet, etc. what do you think will happen to you? Is it worth it? All these mind games she seems to be playing? It might not be clear to you but it is to me- SHE'S TWO-FACED! Look at her, she's trying to play 'best friends' with you while dating another guy! This is unacceptable. Give her up and move on- cut all ties. This isn't about her forcing herself to miss you- (which isn't bs. Absence makes two hearts grow fonder, I'm engaged to a Marine, I know all about distance.) It's about her playing games and getting attention, it's part of our culture that many young women grow up to be spoiled, wimpy, needy, attention wanting princesses, and they accomplish that by playing the dating game and messing with dudes- and love isn't a game, it's commitment. She's stuck in a messed up drama, that you should get out of right away. And next time you start to date someone, make sure that you're looking for potential spouse material because this girl seems completely ridiculous.

[123skyscraper]

I am kind of in your situation. My ex has been dating a girl less than a week after our breakup. Yes, it burned me alive, but I am better and happy now.
Getting back to your case, this girl is trying to keep her options open, keep you hanging on as backup in case this new guy doesn't work out, she will have you to fall back on! That is exactly what my ex is trying to do to me! I am not allowing that! He wants to be friends with me, telling me he loves/misses me but he continues to date the new girl! No way! Trust me when she does come back to you, she will be another guy as a backup! That's just who she is! You deserve better. Cut off all contacts and move on! She is the one to lose out, not you!