[toddman]

Im 17 years old and have not had a girl friend, I'm a junior in high school now
I know that I shouldn't be woring about this right now but I don't know why latley I just been feeling lonely :(
Like is there something wrong with or something, like no girls like me, like even when I ask a girl to a dance she basically says no like the one I asked a couple of days ago and when I asked her she siad she alredy had plans,
Like one thing why I don't get in relationships because I think I'm like to nice of a guy.
Anyone want to give me adivice?

[artlady]

Do you have self confidence ?
Do you project yourself as a guy who is self assured or are you a little self conscious.
Often the way you present yourself speaks volumes to people.
You need to feel good about you and then others will see that.
Are you shy?

[Cat1864]

Todd, I just read your thread in teens. You were given some great advice in it.

I will be giving you pretty much the same advice.

You need to work on liking yourself. You really can't expect anyone else to want to be with you if you don't want to. I think that there probably is a lot to like about you if you give yourself a chance.

What are some of the things you are interested in? How can you use those things to build your self-esteem?

How can you use those interests to help you meet girls who share them?

[toddman]

Do you have self confidence ?
Do you project yourself as a guy who is self assured or are you a little self conscious.
Often the way you present yourself speaks volumes to people.
You need to feel good about you and then others will see that.
Are you shy?

I have low confidens, and yea I am kind of shy,

[artlady]

My eldest son was very shy for many years so I know what a burden that can be.
You know you have skills and assets and you need to remind yourself of that.
Give yourself a pep talk before you approach someone.
I know I am a good person and I have all of these talents.
Believe in you and it will show.
Fake it till you make it is an idea that really works.
If you fake confidence you will eventually feel that way.
Stand up straight and practice confidence.
Body language is the first thing someone sees.
Stand tall and look people in the eye.
I know shyness can be debilitating but you just have to get out of your comfort zone and go for it.
You may be rejected but that is not because of you.Everyone gets shot down sometime.
Try to be friends with people first and then maybe ask for a date.
You will meet someone .Have faith.
Do you have any special girl you like?

[toddman]

You will meet someone .Have faith.
Do you have any special girl you like?

Well yea I like like 2 people right now one wich I will never have a chance with cuase we are friends (and she alrdy has a bf) and also she alredy told we way before she seees me as a friend, the second girl I won't problay have a chance cause thts the girl a asked to that dance and she said she alredy had other plans

[artlady]

well yea i like like 2 people right now one wich i will never have a chance with cuase we are friends (and seh alrdy has a bf) and also she alredy told we way before she seees me as a friend,, the second girl i wont problay have a chance cause thts the girl a asked to tht dance and she said she alredy had other plans

O.K. that does not mean she won't be able to do something with you in the future.She had plans,that's a real thing.
Be strong and know what your assets are ,what are they ?

[toddman]

Nope I don't know what my assets are

[artlady]

nope i dont know what my assets are

C'mon give me a break.What are you good at?
Are you smart are you kind are you funny ?

[toddman]

C'mon give me a break.What are you good at?
Are you smart are you kind are you funny ?

Ooo OK um yea I'm kind of funny and I get good grades in school
I'm not really good at much I think thoug

[artlady]

ooo ok um yea im kind of funny and i get good grades in school
im not rlly good at much i think thoug

DUDE,come on ! Why are you so lacking in self confidence ?
Are you comparing yourself to others?
Your smart and funny! Those are great assets!
Pat yourself on the back for that!
Work it!

[toddman]

DUDE,come on ! Why are you so lacking in self confidence ?
Are you comparing yourself to others?
Your smart and funny! Those are great assets!
Pat yourself on the back for that!
Work it!

Thanks, but um yea its cuase ihave low confidence

[amIwrong]

I know this may seem abstract to you now, but really, try to use this... everyone is in the same boat. The difference is that some of us let it get to us more then others. We all feel like we aren't good enough at points, the difference is those of us who show it and those who do not. So, the people who project having confidence possess what? Being the best at putting it on.
If nothing else don't take yourself so seriously, these people won't be around you forever, use this time to experimentwith yourself and what approach works best for you.

[toddman]

I knoww, like do you people think I should seriously stressing about this topic so much and like focous on other thing?
But like the main reason why I'm stressing on this is because of the fact thts obvioius that I haven't been in relationship and like I think I need some dating experience before I get out in the big world where your relatioinship counts the most

[friend4u178]

Others will start to see you in the same way if you exude confidence.

[toddman]

Ooo OK yeah I know whay u people mean