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    lonelyguy28 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 10, 2009, 10:50 AM
    Shy guy needs help.
    I'm 28-year old male and still a virgin, never been in a relationship, never had female friends. I had male friends at school and university (graduate and post-graduate) but since they all had girlfriends and experiences I was always feeling embarrassed so I stopped seeing them and I have no friends now. I get depressed too and I cry, but I've told nobody. I too would love to have a family after finding the right one, but I have no social life and I dislike dating websites.

    I like females and want to be with them but I'm afraid of them and even though I was hit by some in college, I have driven them away as I freaked out. I don't know why, but it may be related to a childhood experience when a female attacked and injured me with a small knife at pre-school. I'm not sure I can get past it, I even freak out whenever I have to say hello to a female or have a handshake with a female co-worker, and I'm afraid I'll die a virgin :(
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Oct 10, 2009, 04:01 PM
    Naw, you will eventually come to terms with your past experiences, and get over your shyness. When? When you get ready to, when you get tired of running from your own fear, and are ready to build an adult social life.

    Counseling may be what you need. Better late than never.
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    Fr_Chuck Posts: 81,301, Reputation: 7692
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    Oct 10, 2009, 05:24 PM

    Sorry, don't buy the girl in early school,

    First you date by asking girls out, any girl, don't be picky, just start dating and get the experience.

    Next why do you not like dating sites, A few years back, I had dates every week, sometimes a couple dates a weekend from several of the sites.
    So you don't like them, why because you are afraid they will make you actually date.

    I would say perhaps counseling if you can't reallly just ask girls out

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