[itsamor]

How can you help someone when they're obsessing over someone. Like thinking about them all the time and wanting to know where and what they do all the time? Who won't and can't leave someone alone?
I think some peoples version of "love" is addiction.

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[itsamor]

man it's kind of important for some one to give me some advice here =/

[Clough]

Hi, itsamor!

One of the things that might work, would be to try to keep the person who's obsessed as active as possible with other things that might be of interest to the person as well as getting them involved with other people.

Hopefully, others will also come along to offer their advice.

Thanks!

[Survivor07]

When you use the words "won't leave someone alone" it makes me think of a stalker. If someone is obsessing on someone and that someone wants them to leave them alone, then there's a definite problem.

I agree with Clough, though easier said than done. The reason for the obsession needs to be looked into. Like, is this a common thing for this person, to be obsessive. Do they have an addictive personality? Obsession is not love, especially when the person wants to be left alone. It's definitely not healthy. People do not obsess over people they love. Although it's natural to care about their well being when you love someone, it's not normal to only think of that person all the time. Something is lacking in their own life for sure and self-help books or even a therapist might help.

[Survivor07]

Oh, I forgot to add that if you're trying to help someone and you sense it's an addiction thing, then unless they realize what they are doing is not healthy, there won't be much you can do. Like any addict, they need to recognize their problem and want to stop and accept help.

[Homegirl 50]

Unless they see what their doing as over the top, there is nothing you can do outside of talking to them, voicing your concern and give them examples of why you are concerned.
Perhaps that will help them see that they have a problem.