[DerelictHerds]

Not to get off track, but why do you think time is running out Derelict? You still have your whole life ahead of you! Your time as a child may be running out, but the adult world awaits you :)

I mean planning for college and deciding a career.

[emopunk7]

Well everyone I think I came to the bottom today. Peace of mind is everything. After the two times of telling my girlfriend that its best she not lie about where or what she is going to do, it was now clear it wouldn't end. If I felt the anger and need to pay her back then deep down I already knew it was over. Everything does happen for a reason. I can't blame myself for not being trusting or any of that. If I felt I couldn't trust her then that's the end of it. I just couldn't trust her although I did love her. All I asked was that she do as pleased but to please not lie about it. After all honesty would be highly respected in the end even if I did get upset especially when we spoke about it before. I couldn't trust anymore and peace of mind is very important to me. I will always appreciate the good times and have a place for her but it is over and I have to accept it and not blame myself because I did try and took care of her feelings, always. If she wanted it to work, there were ways. Honesty is very important to me. There are many more fish in the sea as sad as that is to say.
I have only cried once recently and I think part of why I'm doing so good is because I know this wasn't my wrong doing. I also learned a lot for my next relationship and I will still try being very trusting. I will only expect honesty in return. I don't expect what I don't give and even still I don't ask for much as I love to give more. I am a great guy who knows how to care for a woman and to respect them and love them. I just hope I can meet the right person someday. Overall, I feel uplifted today and seeing things in a bit better light. Some things just aren't meant to last but to be appreciated and remembered for the time they did last. I know I can do this and I have a life to live.

[amicon]

Good news Emo!
And yes no trust no relationship.
Sounds as if you re learning and recovering and of course you will meet someone great when you re ready.
Have a good weekend.

[emopunk7]

Is it a good idea to talk to other girls and try to stay positive? I recently started talking to my ex ex and she replied she seemed happy and she said to forget about the past because we were young and she said to call her to catch up or if I need a friend... im excited because she is gorgeous and was very nice to me and she is not mad at me. My mind also feels occupied now and I feel happier and if anything were to happen I can def. practice trusting with her and see how it goes.Anyone interested in seeing the convos? Any thoughts?

[DerelictHerds]

Is it a good idea to talk to other girls and try to stay positive? I recently started talking to my ex ex and she replied she seemed happy and she said to forget about the past because we were young and she said to call her to catch up or if I need a friend...im excited because she is gorgeous and was very nice to me and she is not mad at me. My mind also feels occupied now and I feel happier and if anything were to happen I can def. practice trusting with her and see how it goes.Anyone interested in seeing the convos? Any thoughts?

Of course it's a good idea. Just keep it cool, and don't go off half cocked

[emopunk7]

My heart is beating hard because I'm a bit sad... I didn't dream about her today... im still sad how we had a great day and she tells me she loves me and all and then she says she is going to sleep and goes out behind my back and when I call she doesn't care if I'm worried and stays out till the next day... I feel hurt and confused but sometimes I just say she probably didn't care so much anymore. I know I wasn't bad at all... I did everything for her and I mean even when I kept her waiting while I would get ready, I would feel bad. I always took care of her in every way. Why did she choose not to care for something that's important? I would never do that to her. The second she thinks something I'm there to protect her feelings... thats love to me.

So what if I did it back... its not like I cheated. Even cheating people stay together and we never had a problem like that. I dealt with her issues and nobody is perfect. How can she just walk away like nothing... just recently the sex was even getting better where multiple times she said that was the best sex she ever had and I gave her the best massage ever because I know she likes it and I literally stood an hour on her and it was great... I pick her up from work all the time so she doesn't have to take the bus which she hates and all this... I mean I can see what happened between us as a problem but not to break up... I try finding jokes to tell her and I ask about her school and work daily and I take her out and dress good and put cologne and we spent time with my family and watched movies and laid down together and hugged and played around and played sports and I put a lot of effort into the relationship and she doesn't think we could fix this... sure we get mad but when you break up and are able to go nearly a month now, then there had to be something else. What do you say?

[amicon]

Don't beat yourself up. Sometimes things just don't work out Emo.
And we have to get on with it-accepting that we tried and it turned sour. You deserve to have a good fullfilling life-allow yourself to let this go.

[emopunk7]

Thank you very much for those words Amicon... Its that people here say that its my fault for being a little jealous and for making a problem when she wanted to go out clubbing or something... I mean of course I will be a little jealous because I love her to death and of course going out to a club or bar isn't the best of places to go alone but I never said no... I only expressed how I felt... the problem was she would go out without telling me and then she said she would be honest and she wasn't again and I was hurt... but I don't get why she wanted to break up... besides this nonsense I was so good to her! So good that I'm positive she will never ever find someone better. I'm sure she knows that.

[amicon]

But for your own sake try to move on- you ll have good days-some rubbish days and then one day you ll be basically fine-trust me- I ve been there done that etc.:-)

[emopunk7]

Yeah I guess today isn't my good day. Isn't it strange how someone can just give up though... maybe stay mad for a week but breaking up was ridiculous. I don't get it.

Where is T-Man and Cat and Friend4U and a few others I can't remember?

[Justwantfair]

I wasn't listed so I guess I shouldn't input.

Everyone has a breaking point. What are you doing for you these days.

[Cat1864]

I am here, emo. :)

Just letting you find your feet and get some slightly differing opinions.

You seem to be doing fairly well except for the slight backslide every now and then.

You just need to stop thinking in terms of she and her when they apply to the ex. It doesn't matter what she knows or knew. She is no longer a factor in your life.

What matters is that you are learning that you exist as more than 'her' boyfriend. I am glad that I think I am finally starting to meet emopunk instead of just emo. :)

[emopunk7]

Sorry I missed you Justwantfair... Of course you should input... I get happy when you all write... its something to do you know and its very helpful too so I like this. I know everyone has a breaking point... but I just don't see that as a big enough reason still... I dealt with it with anger or I would have not spoken to her for a week... either way I think she had me on a leash the whole time as she could have called it off anytime and I felt like I always had to work to keep her. I doubt she cared as much as I did but she was nice a lot of times. This just sucks.

Cat... thank you for your post... makes me verrry happy! Yeah I get sad sometimes but surprisingly not nearly as bad as the first time... I was a mess then... How are you doing? Do you watch any TV shows?

T-Man... I have never asked you... how are you doing?

[friend4u178]

either way I think she had me on a leash the whole time as she could have called it off anytime and I felt like I always had to work to keep her. I doubt she cared as much as I did

You said it all yourself here Emo , keep reading it and take it in. No one deserves to be treated like that.

As my favourite Tal quote says:


"Never make a person a priority in your life, while allowing them to make you an option in theirs."

[Cat1864]

I am really glad that you are doing better this time around. It gives me hope that there won't be a next time. :)

[emopunk7]

I'm bored...

[emopunk7]

Anybody there?

[DevilNam]

Lol, I bet you all would have gone met... if you imagine your girlfriend dancing with someone else in a clubbing... well... u know... girls have the desire to... well... u should know it...

[DerelictHerds]

Lol, I bet you all would have gone met...if you imagine your gf dancing with someone else in a clubbing.....well....u know...girls have the desire to ...well...u should know it...

[emopunk7]

Thanks a lot derelic! That was funny. Lol