[sheenaOcen]

So I knew this guy last year, we went on a few dates.. it got a little sexual not all the way though, because eventho I was playing along that I want him but I wanted tomake sure he wants me to be his girl and not just a fling.. so the whole thing didn't work, he started ignoring me completely and I decided not to bother him anymore. A year passes by.
He contacts me this summer out of nowhere and asks me out on a date.tells me he was in a long term relationship.( for a change) that he just ended it, not phased by it,and wants to see me again and hangs out with me and whatnot. So we went on our first date, just talked nothing happened, he kissed me.. and then I waited a week before I heard from him which was almost like a flashback to his behaviour last year.. then we made plans a bunch of times that either he cancelled or I cancelled (out of spite) because I wanted to show him I'm not available whenever he's available. Because I was starting to feel that he is not putting any effort into this. So finally I said we don't havee 2 do this. Because I was thinking to myself why does he go through the trouble contacting me wanting to hangout left and right and doesn't follow through. Like he would cancel a date or waits days before he gets back to me just to let me know he can't go on a date because he has friends coming in town... so as soon as I said we don't have to do this now if you are too busy. He said yea I agree.

Then he changes his status from single to relationship on Facebook and goes on msn to say that he misses his girlfriend. Knowing that I will see his status.. how can someone be so cruel? Does he just not give a crap that he is breaking my heart by saying that. Or was I a rebound. I feel like I was walked all over. So I got rid of anything that reminds me of him, but is not really working.

[redhed35]

This guy is a jerk.. plain and simple,he went on his merry way last year because he just wanted sex,you were smart enough to realise that...

This time he thought he would chance his arm again,you being the rebound or just a vessel for a one night stand...


Good riddence to this guy,and fair play to you for realising he is a jerk.

[I wish]

I guess you were just venting, because any answer to your question is pretty clear.

You definitely sounded like his rebuond. Why put up his is disrespect? You don't need his attitude. You don't need his behavior. Be glad that you found this out about him before anything serious started.

But feel free to vent all you want! We're always here to help any way we can.

[sheenaOcen]

Thank you both for your responses.I guess I was venting.. late night thoughts can be so bothersome.. I donno why I think people are capable of change, that's why I gave him the second chance. I guess some aren't.. you are both right... he is an inconsiderate jerk.. I guess its better knowing now than later. Thank you both for your comments, nice to hear it from someone else.